Talked in front of a group for the first time about porn addiction last weekend

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by Joshua Shea, Apr 16, 2018.

  1. Joshua Shea

    Joshua Shea Active Member

    When I wrote my book sitting in a jail cell in early 2016, I thought it would be a cathartic thing to do while I passed away the six months. Then, when I got out, I let two people read it and while it was very bloated, they both thought that there was a good book about a guy talking about his descent into porn addiction that had not been done before.

    So, I spent almost a year transcribing (I had to write it into composition notebooks using mini golf pencils!) and editing it down to a workable length and The Addiction Nobody Will Talk About was born. Thankfully, I found a publisher and the book was released in January this year. I thought that would be it and I'd sell a dozen books and feel good that it was at least out there on Amazon for people to have access.

    Then, the podcasts started dropping me emails, then my local TV station wanted to do a story, because I was kind of well-known when I got busted (local politician, owned a magazine). I launched my website so people had a central place to go to reach me, and so I could write a little bit more about recovery and the response was crazy. It didn't take me long to realize that it wasn't one-and-done with the book. The book allowed my RecoveringPornAddict.com website to take root and reach so many more people than just the book could. After a few weeks, a couple libraries in my state put in on display, and as of today, it's in over a dozen in Maine and a lot more through the country.

    But I took the step I'm most proud of this past weekend and I finally talked in front of a group. Sure, it wasn't many people in the small New Hampshire town of Merrimack, but they heard my story of recovery, they learned about the statistics of what we can expect to happen with this health crisis and they were warm, friendly and never judged.

    I floated out that library, but felt like I understood my purpose when I got an email later from a woman who was in the group who confided she has a problem with porn addiction and wanted connections to resources. I was able to provide them...and that's something I never had going through my ordeal. There were no library talks, no first-person books, nobody there to tell me this was going to be OK.

    I was a selfish son-of-a-you-know-what in my prior life. I like this life better.
     
  2. simon1986

    simon1986 Member

    Awesome stuff. May I ask what you were imprisoned for??
     
  3. Joshua Shea

    Joshua Shea Active Member

    Absolutely, it's part of my story and I don't shy away from it. I was convicted for encouraging a teenager to perform sex acts on her webcam. I took two screen captures of it, so the charges were one count of exploitation and two counts of possession of underage pornography. I served six months and six days of a nine-month sentence from January to July 2016.
     
  4. simon1986

    simon1986 Member

    Appreciate the honesty. You've done the time and clearly learnt from it and are doing something about it. Hope the girl is ok .
     
  5. Joshua Shea

    Joshua Shea Active Member

    As the saying goes, the truth will set you free. My personality is one that I'd feel guilty sitting on my hands not doing anything.
    Unfortunately, she's not ready to take the steps that are necessary for recovery. Still in that "But it might not really be an addiction" rationalization phase. At least she's recognize it *might* be a problem.
     

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