Yup. My son made a dumb move at school last week, and will be paying for it until school is out. His mom and I are helping him atone for it, but reacting to his deeds with anger won't help anything. So far, I've been OK at keeping calm. Among the many things I'm trying to be more conscious of is my impatience, and how being quick to temper has been a very destructive force in my life. I had a road rage incident a couple of weeks ago, where some dude was insistent on not letting me "take my turn" where lanes were merging. I stuck to my guns, because how could someone be such a dick, right? Well, since I was on the shoulder side of the road, I had to be the one to back down from this stupid game of chicken. It was a dangerous episode that could have ended badly. Then, after getting behind him, I noticed he had a small child in the back seat. So he was putting her in danger by letting his need to be in front of me take over. And if we had gotten into an accident, I would have felt even more terrible. If I expect to make everyone take their turn and be polite, I'm going to be disappointed every day all the time By not reacting to people needing to be ahead of me, I'll save myself a lot of grief. Besides, how many people have grumbled at me for being an aggressive driver (and being called the very dickhead I'm complaining about here)? I probably wouldn't want to hear that answer... When I've vented about this subject to co-workers, they invariably say, "yeah, I just let 'em go by". Wow, how simple is that? Great stuff, Saville. I've felt the change in my mind coming, but have not allowed myself to break the chains. The biggest challenge is to let the day end without giving the compulsion the power to take over.