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Porn-ED. 20-years old, using viagra, HELP
« on: March 05, 2012, 03:17:54 PM »
Hello, I am new to the community here, but I found a link from yourbrainonporn.com that sent me here and most of the information on that website described my situation to a T. So here is my story.

I always was a nerdy kid in middle school, then in high school I got deep into drugs. I smoked a lot of weed, did a lot ecstasy, acid, shrooms, painkillers, and pretty much everything. I never really had a girlfriend or was sexually active my whole life, but now I am in college and quit doing all the drugs and realized I am missing out on one of the greatest natural experiences a human being can have.

So my lack of a love life for, well my entire life, led me to masturbate and watch a lot of porn since I was like 13. Then when I got my own computer when I was 17, I really started going crazy. Over the past few months thing have gotten hot and heavy between a lady friend of mine and now we are dating. I actually just love my virginity a few days ago and it was amazing, except I was drunk as all hell and had to take 100mg of viagra to get it up. I have a prescription for viagra because of my earlier days of being a druggie, I learned how to tell doctors whatever I had to in order to get whatever drugs I wanted. I have had tried to have sex twice before this new girl and both times the same thing happened, I could not get an erection. I didn't think I was that nervous so I never really understood what the problem was. I was freaking out and thinking maybe I was gay, but I never watched gay porn, I actually loved lesbian stuff the most. Then I found out about porn ed and it seems like that is the problem.

So I have been porn free for a week, but I took 200mg of viagra over the course of 2 days and had sex both of those days, but I only ejaculated once. Then the day after my girlfriend came over and I tried to bang her again without taking viagra because I was horny all day and had a huge erection while she was over until it came time for me to penetrate her. She told me I wasn't hard enough and we continued to makeout but then my penis shut down. I was hugely embarrassed and so was she. I didn't completely ruin things between us but if I don't rock her world next time I might be in trouble.

I know I can't keep taking viagra if I want to fix my ed, but I am wondering if it is ok if I don't masturbate or watch porn while I'm rebooting, but still have sex and take viagra until I get where I need to be.

I am also taking 3 grams of l-arginine, 1 gram of ginseng, 60mg of gingko biloba, and some maca root too.

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Re: Porn-ED. 20-years old, using viagra, HELP
« Reply #1 on: March 06, 2012, 03:43:17 PM »
Oh man.

This really is an excellent question.

Personally I'm against using Viagra. I believe it's a "quick fix" that can create dependence and doesn't help at all solve the root of the problem.

However, I can understand your situation.

You have 2 options:

1) Tell her the truth, stop using Viagra, and avoid any sexual activity for at least 1 month, hoping that she can be understanding and supportive.

2) Continue using Viagra while avoiding porn and masturbation at all costs. The recovery is probably going to be a lot slower though. I believe sex has to be avoided during the early stages of rebooting.

If you choose #2 then MAKE SURE you avoid PM no matter what. Then you can tell us if it worked or not!

Wish you the best pal!

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Re: Porn-ED. 20-years old, using viagra, HELP
« Reply #2 on: March 06, 2012, 05:50:34 PM »
Just tell her the truth. I know it is hard. But start off with something like look I ve been telling the total truth except for one thing. And she will think it is something major in her mind. Like you have a kid somewhere or a disease like aids, etc. Then you will tell her the story and she will be relieved that it is only this. And since you have had sex with her already its not like you are completely incompatible. She will help you out. I guarantee to her sex is probably not as important as it is to you. Try stay away from anything sexual for at least 120 days and just cuddle with her. I dont think to her it will be as big of a thing as to you.

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« Reply #3 on: March 11, 2012, 09:23:10 PM »
Thanks for your input guys, but I almost spilled the beans and told her the truth about it all, but she will feel mortified. So I have decided to stick with no PM and try to strictly have sex with lower and lower doses of viagra.

Good news though! She had her period last week and we couldn't have sex (big relief for me), but she gave me oral the two days we hungout and I was rock solid both times and was able to reach orgasm, no viagra needed. I am only 2 weeks into no PM and I am feeling more and more horny everyday. I tried having sex without viagra last night and failed again. I was rock solid while we were making out up until I was trying to penetrate, then I just lost my erection. She tried to tell me it was okay, but I knew it was gonna bother her so I ran off to bathroom and chewed up a viagra. Then just sweet talked for 30min and then I was good to go. I am starting to think I have not only porn-ED, but bad performance anxiety. The strange thing is that I don't feel nervous or anything, it's just like my penis shuts off when its time to handle business.

I am sticking with this PM thing for atleast 6 months, and we will see how long the GF lasts, viagra is damn expensive and i only have 12 left for a month. And my GF is a nympho, she honestly needs sex everyday. Its really ironic how I have what I have always dreamed of in a woman, but I can't keep up to her level. Atleast not yet,  I just wanna be horny as hell all the time and be ready to go at moments notice.

I also got irrational and was worried the viagra I have won't last me the month, so I went online and bought some generic viagra from medexpressrx.com, hopefully the stuff works.

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Re: Porn-ED. 20-years old, using viagra, HELP
« Reply #4 on: March 12, 2012, 06:20:58 AM »
I am sorry, but I feel like you're spamming. If u know viagra is bad, as we all do, why go ahead and post a link in your post? Looks very fishy to me...
''He who lives in seclusion is more exposed to temptations and danger. He will have to be very careful and vigilant. The mind will be tempted to do anything as there is nobody to witness its evil action.''

''The fly runs towards the fire or lamp thinking that it is a flower and gets burnt up. Even so, the passionate lusting man runs towards a false beautiful form thinking that he can get there.''

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Re: Porn-ED. 20-years old, using viagra, HELP
« Reply #5 on: March 12, 2012, 07:53:28 AM »
spam

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Re: Porn-ED. 20-years old, using viagra, HELP
« Reply #6 on: March 12, 2012, 09:07:14 AM »
I don't think he's spamming.

And if he is then I don't care. His spam is so advanced and under the radar that it goes unnoticed.


« Last Edit: March 12, 2012, 04:33:01 PM by TheUnderdog »

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Re: Porn-ED. 20-years old, using viagra, HELP
« Reply #7 on: March 12, 2012, 10:30:19 PM »
Lol I'm not spamming, I bought generic viagra from a sketchy indian website because I am that desperate. My insurance only pays for 6 a month and this chick is a nympho, so I am freaking out. She wanted to bang tonight but I had to say I was too busy because I need to stretch my supply out.

Anyway, and what do you mean viagra is bad for me? I know there is a risk of dependence, as with any chemical substance, I don't think there are any serious side effects? Admittedly, I haven't checked into it much, but I feel like if my doc prescribed it for me knowing my medical history, he would have made me aware.

And no offense, but I keep posting because only one person has given me any input on my big question. I appreciate you guys giving me relationship advice and telling me to be honest, but I am much too embarrased and gonna opt for the easy out until she breaks it off with me because I can't sexually satisfy her without drugs for the time being. I am trying to reboot, and is it ok to have sex with viagra, having an orgasm only while having sex, and no PM?


« Last Edit: March 12, 2012, 10:37:59 PM by iAMnotSUPERMAN »

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Re: Porn-ED. 20-years old, using viagra, HELP
« Reply #8 on: March 13, 2012, 09:20:35 PM »
Part of it is psychological. If you see that you cannot have sex without viagra, it keeps reinforcing that connection in your mind that without viagra, no sex. Your mind convinces itself that it needs that pill (confidence) in order to get a full erection.

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Re: Porn-ED. 20-years old, using viagra, HELP
« Reply #9 on: March 14, 2012, 01:44:17 AM »
I recognize that, I was exactly the same, paranoid that she would leave me. She left me of other reasons though, my paranoia led to neediness, which repulsed her.
http://goodlookingloser.com/forums/index.php?topic=88.0

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Re: Porn-ED. 20-years old, using viagra, HELP
« Reply #10 on: March 16, 2012, 02:46:18 PM »
Ok guys, so I am now almost 3 weeks with no porn or masturbation, but have had orgasm with girlfriend periodically through that time.

I am wondering if now I am flatlining, because the past 2 nights (with viagra) we have tried to have sex and I was only able to get it up once. It's so weird because I have a erection all day and the whole time during foreplay and then it just shuts down.

So I am not sure if this is flatlining or not, I haven't really felt horny the past few days compared to a week or two ago when I was really horny. But I am still getting erections unexpectedly without doing anything.

So flatline or not?

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Re: Porn-ED. 20-years old, using viagra, HELP
« Reply #11 on: March 16, 2012, 04:19:11 PM »
This is not the "typical" flatline, that normally constitutes a general drop in libido and erections in general, so you would really be getting erections at all.

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Re: Porn-ED. 20-years old, using viagra, HELP
« Reply #12 on: April 13, 2012, 05:03:31 PM »
I personally use cialis to get hard for this girl I see on occassion.   I think the guy who wrote below you is correct. The option where yuo dont have sex and you dont PMO at all is the most difficult but it will help you recover the fastest. The second option may be easier and more manageable but it m ay take longer. I'm choosing option 2. Heck, I still masturbate at times but I've been almost two weeks without masturbating. Its difficult man. Feel free to hit me up anytime