Author Topic: Questions about rebooting from porn induced ED and prone masturbation  (Read 2858 times)

lostfan2277

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Okay, firstly, I just found this site, so I'm not totally sure if I'm posting this in the right board.  If I'm not, I apologize.

Anyways, I'm an 18 year old guy.  I've been a prone masturbator(sp?) since, well, I've started masturbating.  Also, I have looked at fetish porn fairly frequently (about every other day) for about the past four years.  Recently, I have been researching about my habits and have found out they don't seem to be very good for my sexual health.  I've been looking at techniques in kicking these habits and they almost seem to work against each other a little bit.  It seems that with porn induced ED, the best method to recovery is by completely disassociating yourself from porn and masturbation for weeks and maybe even months on end.  In order to stop prone masturbation, it requires one to "re-learn" how to masturbate the "normal" way after a week of abstinence.  In short, it seems that both of the ways of getting rid of these habits clash in the sense that one almost requires me to masturbate while the other greatly discourages it.

What I'm trying to get to with this post is whether or not anyone here has any knowledge or advice of how to effectively get rid of both of these habits.  Would it be best to try and combine these treatments? Or would it be better to try and complete one and then move onto the other one?

I realize this is a very long post, and I'm sorry for that;  but, I have just recently come to terms with all of this.  I guess this is me venting.  Any help that can be provided would be greatly appreciated.   :)

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Re: Questions about rebooting from porn induced ED and prone masturbation
« Reply #1 on: January 31, 2013, 03:25:16 AM »
I used to masturbate prone and I went through a weeks abstinence and learnt to masturbate supine nearly a year ago, and I'm going through a reboot at the moment due to PIED.

I think if your motivated to stay off porn at the moment you should concentrate on that as discovering 'regular' masturbation is pretty easy when you're desperate to bust a nut... Plus I don't think prone masturbation is an addiction, more a quirk you develop when you learn to masturbate, so you won't miss it, but you will probably miss the P.

Since you have ED you will need to rewire your brain to the real thing towards the end of your reboot anyway. Now I haven't done this simultaneously so maybe someone can be more help but I imagine rewiring to someone else's touch would be more ideal than to your own, but that might depend on your girlfriend situation or how easy your reboot is..

Basically concentrate on kicking the P, if you have to M do it gently and lying down on your back!

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Re: Questions about rebooting from porn induced ED and prone masturbation
« Reply #2 on: January 31, 2013, 03:28:27 PM »
If I were you I would go noPMO starting right now for like 2 or 3 months. After that I would try to learn to masturbate normal way but without looking at porn and not doing it more than once a week.

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Re: Questions about rebooting from porn induced ED and prone masturbation
« Reply #3 on: February 04, 2013, 10:19:58 PM »
this is the same scenario as me fetish+prone masturbator+e.d. i'm really wondering if years of prone masturbation has done permanent damage on my dick cus i never able to cum on piv.

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Re: Questions about rebooting from porn induced ED and prone masturbation
« Reply #4 on: February 05, 2013, 12:34:22 AM »
I used my pillow to the point where i was getting close, then I'd stop and stroke my cokc wiht my hand. Pretty soon I didnt need the pillow. I could just use my hand. This took about a week or so to achieve. Using your hand feels a lot better and will help you out with a real girl

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Re: Questions about rebooting from porn induced ED and prone masturbation
« Reply #5 on: February 06, 2013, 12:47:27 AM »
Thanks for the replies guys!   :D

It has been about a week and I haven't PMO'd once! I know that isn't much time, but I'm pretty happy so far.  I think I'm going to try and go about another 2 weeks before I try to masturbate with my hand.  I have noticed that I have been having more vivid dreams and been waking up with morning wood more frequently.  Could this be due to the no PMO? 

Also, since I'm still a bit of a newbie at this stuff, I have a couple of more questions related to fetishes.  I've always kind of liked bondage, specifically women in damsel in distress situations.  (I blame Daphne from Scooby Doo.)  When I started to get into porn, I usually found myself looking at that type of stuff.  Eventually, I ended up "finding" a new fetish (tickling) by watching some porn related videos.  After watching so many videos related to these fetishes, it got the point where I'm really not even turned on by conventional sex that much.  I guess what I'm trying to ask is how much of my fetish is "genuine"?   In other words, is my ED caused more because of the fetishes I have or because of the porn I watched to them?  I'm having a tough time discerning the relationship between fetishes and porn and their effects on my ED. 

Lastly, I have what may be considered a stupid question.  What exactly is considered "porn"?  I mean, I know what it is, but what about the "gray areas"? For example, would the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition be considered porn?  And if it's not, would looking at things like that effect my reboot in any way?

Once again, I'm sorry if I rambled a bit and I appreciate any and all responses! Best of luck to you all!  :)

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Re: Questions about rebooting from porn induced ED and prone masturbation
« Reply #6 on: February 06, 2013, 09:15:40 AM »
Abstinence is still a very quick way to unlearn prone masturbation. It's not usually put forward as a solution because no-one wants to do it! Once you've rebooted, it might not feel as natural as prone in the beginning but you will still be able to M and O easily the normal way.
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Re: Questions about rebooting from porn induced ED and prone masturbation
« Reply #7 on: February 06, 2013, 01:22:54 PM »
Dont be discouraged if your reboot begins to take longer than you expected! I'm getting closer to 4 months rebooting now and have a ways to go yet (although I have seen great, tangible progress).

As long as you no PMO you'll get where you want to be...just remember that :)
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