Eh, my problems don't seem to be quite as deep as others, but porn has made me overthink things in the worst ways possible. When I hear that a group of girls are locking themselves in a room to play a game, my mind thinks "...secret lesbian kissing party?" I thought about this at a family gathering when something similar happened... That's kinda fucked up, innit? Thinking that about my own relatives? I felt dirty that day.
I guess you could say porn has presented imaginary implications in my head that are perverse. But nothing else comes to mind immediately. I like to think I always approached porn with common sense, acknowledging that it was fake and that these scenarios are as legitimate as the white son of a black couple, and that most women are likely not this... frisky. But, the scenarios were still in my head and that's enough reason to hate porn- for putting those outrageous scenarios in my head.
I'm glad I found a good bottle of Porn-B-gone 3 months ago. It's really helped me get a healthier grip on my view of women these days. Though I've always found all creeds of women attractive, so I don't think my own standards have really changed. I like em' in all shapes and sizes (well, I confess, I'd prefer a healthy girl over an overweight one, of course). It's just a shame I never act on such attraction, which brings me to a response to the OP...
It's actually pretty normal for either gender to put some of the opposite gender on a pedestal. You think there aren't women out there who swoon the Hell over Robert Downy Jr., and think they could never match up to his standards of beauty or, y'know tightness? For us men, it's a different ball game. Women are more emotional creatures, so getting their attention is a bit more difficult, at least if one is looking for a meaningful relationship, which oddly a lot of men do want. Unfortunately we men truly are not as emotional, and many of us base our capability in understanding romance in the reactions of women.
Though it's not a good thing to be defined by how women may treat you, it's nearly impossible to deny that the mere, genuine acknowledgement from an attractive woman gives you a nice little tingly feeling. Some guys handle it better than others, keeping their macho attitudes intact, but some of us (like me) can't help but smile and furrow our brows just a little if we get a compliment from a rather fetching lady. It feels nice to be told you're handsome, or that you did a good job, and there's nothing wrong with that feeling. It only becomes a problem when someone uses it like the White Feather Girls of the past, who shamed their men into becoming soldiers to run to their deaths.
The problem with the pedestal for both genders is the tendency to not act based on the pedestal. The saying "you miss 100% of the shots you don't take" applies here. I don't know how I rate on a scale of 1 to 10 myself. Maybe I'm a 5, or Hell, maybe I'm as high as an 8 and just don't know it. I'll never know until I try. There are plenty of less than super-model-ish women who hesitate to act on their attraction, probably just as many as men who hesitate honestly. This may have something to do with aiming too high, but again, you'll never know what you can achieve until you try it. Does that mean I'm going to show up one day at Nikki Yanofsky's doorstep and hope to win her heart? No, of course not, but if I see a rather beautiful woman who appears single, and I'm firmly interested, then I need to just get over my fear and go in and hope for the best.
As for the objectification in porn, it's true, but it's also no better for the men I think. The men in porn are made to be sex gods, able to make a woman do anything because obviously having sex with that guy is just that good. If they're not Hercules then they're the perfect submissive, allowing the woman to do whatever the hell they want to the poor sap. For men, porn presents willing women. For women, porn presents the perfect punching bag. The depersonalization of both men and women is inevitable for porn, as porn is primarily for nothing but horniness-driven sexual consumption which rarely involves actual emotion.