I also highly disagree with the statement that guys relapse because porn is still an option in their mind. It's not, it's simply to strong for a lot of them. How many people have wasted their entire savings due to a gambling addiction? How many people have been violent or hurtfull towards other people because off an alcohol or drug addiction? That's how powerfull an addiction can be. Yes willpower is involved in this, but not to the extent that you would think it is.
Well, I HIGHLY disagree with you. willpower is involved MORE than you think it is.
If the 'addict' makes up his mind (a choice) to not do whatever it is that he/she is addicted to becuase the END result is something they dont want and i mean REALLY DONT WANT
, they wont do it. I have seen and gone through MANY different addictions and ALWAYS the addict does not change until...
A.) they hit rock bottom (ED for example, or getting a divorce and loosing family because of an alcohol addiction) OR...
B.) they realize what they are doing to themselves and learn how to stop it
the reason most people cant quit addictions is they cannot handle/are not willing to go through the withdrawl
phase. I see it all the time in food addicts, and porn addicts and internet addicts and alcoholics. You name it... the people that fail have not made up their minds on changing for good..they want to change but arnt WILL
ing to deal with the pain that comes with quiting!
you want personal experience to back up my statements? well here you go, i watched porn EVERYDAY since the ripe age of 10
! im 24 now... by the time i was in 7th grade i was already hooked on very hardcore porn...i quit porn COLD TURKEY on may 17th of last year when i realized i could not get an erection without it. i had no idea how PAINFUL the withdrawl phase was going to be...at about 3 and 4 months after quiting i could NOT sleep...hair started falling out... i would shake, have muscle aches, throw things and start crying out for help, and tons of other stuff i never dreamed i would ge through.. but I NEVER gave looking at porn a thought.. i even look away when there are sex scenes in movies
Back to my example above... alcoholic and a gun... you hold a gun to a alcoholics head that hasnt had a drink in 3 weeks with a whole bottle of his favorite liquor sitting right in front of him... HE WONT DRINK IT!... its a choice...
porn blockers and all that jazz.. are good... for the whole family. BUT if thats what is keeping you from looking at porn, i will be here to say "its ok man brush it off and try again" when you relapse.
a wise guy once said "when you want to succeed as bad as you want to breath, THEN you will be successful"
Whatever works for you though just my advice man... just here to help and give advice and answers to people that need/want them