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Becoming more empathetic after quitting PMO...?
« on: June 21, 2013, 08:59:16 AM »
Among the many things that have improved in my life since my last PMO has been an unexpected increase in my empathy for others. As a general rule, I care about other people but I nevertheless don't have much empathy or ability to understand or share what other people are feeling. When something bad happens to someone else, I can logically accept that they might be feeling bad about it but I don't really feel bad myself.

Over the past few months (without PMOing), though, I've actually found myself to be much more sensitive about other peoples' struggles and I've actually "felt their pain" in a way that I never really have before. I have found myself grieving with others a little bit, and I've even been able to express my concern in ways that I never would have before.

I don't know if this is related to not PMOing, but I'm willing to consider the possibility that it is. Has anyone else experienced something like this?


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Re: Becoming more empathetic after quitting PMO...?
« Reply #1 on: June 21, 2013, 09:03:22 AM »
Definitely. PMO numbs you to reality.


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Re: Becoming more empathetic after quitting PMO...?
« Reply #2 on: June 21, 2013, 09:09:22 AM »
Yep, rebooting brings us into better 'alignment' in more ways than just being able to sport an impressive boner.

It reconnects humanity at a deeper level and I'll even go so far as to say that as the whole rebooting thing gathers momentum, there's going to be quite a shift in global consciousness happening because of it.

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Re: Becoming more empathetic after quitting PMO...?
« Reply #3 on: June 21, 2013, 09:45:26 AM »
Definitely a benefit from rebooting. I posted something similar in another thread earlier today.



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Re: Becoming more empathetic after quitting PMO...?
« Reply #4 on: June 21, 2013, 12:08:35 PM »
Awesome. It sounds like I'm not just imagining this. It's pretty amazing to experience all of the positive changes that accompany a PMO-free life. Without PMO, I am starting to become aware of so many aspects of myself and my life that were being held hostage by my addiction, including many that I wasn't even remotely aware of.


"In those days, when you were slaves of sin, you weren’t concerned with doing what was right. And what was the result? It was not good, since now you are ashamed of the things you used to do, things that end in eternal doom. But now you are free from the power of sin and have become slaves of God.” Romans 6: 19-22

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Re: Becoming more empathetic after quitting PMO...?
« Reply #5 on: June 21, 2013, 12:27:27 PM »
Yep one of the many benefits, I feel like I don't have to BE a certain way and can be myself and can listen to others and process there words with emotion.

I used to be cold, overly logical and cynical. My mum would often say I was weirdly emotionless and I would never let anything get to me or really give a crap about anything.

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Re: Becoming more empathetic after quitting PMO...?
« Reply #6 on: June 21, 2013, 12:36:08 PM »
Yeah, I am a very logical and unemotional person as well. But I know that underneath all of that, I am actually quite sensitive. I care about others but rarely show it. Looking back on my childhood, my parent's divorce and my Dad's lack of interest in me was very painful for me, and I think my calm/cold/rational side might have become over-developed as a way of protecting my sensitive heart against further pain and disappointment.

But I actually think I am "at my best" and am my "true self" when I am at my most sensitive and open to others. My addiction to PMO basically prevented me from being that person, which I'm only realizing now.


"In those days, when you were slaves of sin, you weren’t concerned with doing what was right. And what was the result? It was not good, since now you are ashamed of the things you used to do, things that end in eternal doom. But now you are free from the power of sin and have become slaves of God.” Romans 6: 19-22

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