Your Brain on Porn hard to find?

Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by e7, Jan 15, 2013.

  1. e7

    e7 New Member

    How did you stumble upon YBOP?

    I remember how I got here by accident. I joined this site in August and remembered back then something I've read a long time ago. I read that the brain could somehow get satiated by porn. I searched for YEARS literally for my libido problems and was looking in the wrong direction all the time. I was looking for physical problems because I was 100% sure it wasn't my mind causing low libido. Doctors told me I was fine and it had to be psychological. I couldn't believe this and I wouldn't accept that. Searched every site on low libido and possible causes. Tried various supplements and even found it had to do with dopamine (sex drive/libido). So I tried dopamine supplements but when I quit these I got in a really depressed mood.

    For a long time I believed I was very unique having a low libido at such a young age, was 21 at the time and never found any site with similar problems. When I searched on ED forums people where complaining about ED/PE etc, but never was the problem solely a low libido. Never did I make the connection with porn because it never showed up on forums. Even on this forum the majority of people don't complain about their libido unless they start to reboot. Many don't come here because they can't get horny. This was and still is my biggest problem. Porn destroys your libido but many don't notice this except when they hit flatline.

    I was really glad to have found this site. Many times in the past I had high hopes of the possible cures for low libido, but this site let me KNOW what is wrong and why I have this low libido. It took however ages to find and I can't grasp the fact that I never made the connection with porn myself. I think there are many more who have similar problems like the people on this forum but don't make the connection. If they look for the symptoms and causes porn will not be listed. Maybe we should spam the internet with good information on this and on all related problems and symptoms.
     
  2. LeWeaze

    LeWeaze New Member

    Tell ya the brief version of my story. Have had some ED issues on and off the last year and a half. Finally figured it was all the Pepsi I was drinking, so I kicked it. Dear lord that was harder than quitting PMO! Was away from home working for two months, so no pussy. When I got home, I just knew I was gonna destroy the poor girl! We get in bed, she's naked and ready, and I can't even make it wiggle! What a way to start along weekend together. I was major upset, so had a long weekend binge. I beat my dick like a rented mule!! Monday morning, I decided to look up ED on the net, and came across YBOP. It all made sense. I would PMO a couple times a week over the last years. That explains the on and off ED. When I was gone for the two months, It was pretty much every night for the whole time. On my binge weekend, I found a VERY cute chick on Chatroulette who was willing to do anything I asked her. Again, not even a wiggle. I put it all together that Monday, and it's been all downhill ever since. I've been for years wanting to stop because it just was not a cool thing for a married guy to do. Then, I add PIED to it, and I'm done for good!
     
  3. Evolution

    Evolution Member

    I stumbled on it by accident. After I read it and watched the videos it all made sense - so glad I found the site.
     
  4. puff17

    puff17 New Member

    I didn't find it hard to find when I typed the right words in google search. Like quite a few people had another PIED incident and needed to know wtf was going on. Glad I found it!!
     
  5. I was suffering HOCD (which I didn't know what it was at the time) and in frantic searches for "am I gay" and so on, I eventually found YBOP.
    I took in a bit more of the site than I should have, honestly, and created a whole imaginary world of anxiety and stress for myself, but I'm ultimately happy I found it.
     
  6. Boerr

    Boerr Guest

    When i started working out(Beginning of the last year) i was reading lots of books on health. Eventually i found an old book written by a campaigner against masturbation. I used to have all the side effects that he described, so i was sure that masturbation was my problem.

    After reading this book i started searching about the harms of masturbation. First i found lots of indian sites about herbs to cure over-masturbation and about the effects that masturbation has on the brain/organism. It was an eye-opener. Their description of the effects that masturbation had on d2 receptors made sense for me.

    After lots of searching/reading, i was on Yahoo!Answer and a guy posted a link to YBOP. I started reading all the stories posted there. YBOP led me to /r/NoFap. /r/NoFap led me to this forum. And here i'm after 195 of no masturbation/porn.
     
  7. gameover

    gameover Age: 26

    For me this forum has provided a much better platform then YBOP. It has so much information on there its somewhat of an overload. It became frustrating for me searching around on there. On this forum though the ability to track peoples progress in real time and your own is something that pure information cannot give.

    Works for me anyway.
     
  8. Boerr

    Boerr Guest

    @gameover

    For me this forum os being more useful than YBOP as well, because i already know the "science of porn" that YBOP shows and the stories of rebooting are usually of 90 days reboots which is not so interesting for me anymore since i'm almost on day 200 and i already now the effects of no mastubation. Even though, YBOP is totally important for newbies and usually people find the truth about masturbation/porn on that site.

    This forum is interesting to me because i can write my journal and use it as a cathartic experience. It's about learning too. When you open yourself to people it can be very useful.
     
  9. Netherlife

    Netherlife Guest

    I was angry at the world. Everyone was at fault except me. The girl I was dating dumped me(met her via dating sites), my online WoW "buddies" left me a few months after I quit video games. I had serious problems regarding women, I couldn't even run a fantasy about women anymore, I needed to spend several hours with them to get it up to 50% erection. I thought I was gay, constantly affected by HOCD, and I had also just confessed to my parents that I bombed out of college and have been failing for several years (even through I was telling then that I graduated and was expecting my degree in the mail). The truth was I was failing so I could watch 6-7 hours of porn daily, and play WoW / COD all day, while my unsuspecting parents thought I was hard at work. This went on for about 8 years prior to this( started in high school).

    After all these events, I got the thought that video games like WoW desensitize people to treat each other like objects to fulfill a goal. As soon as you are not capable of filling the role, you're cast out like a broken tool. Since my adventures with women were also hilariously full of fail, (never went on more than 2 dates with a girl and only dated 2 women in my life), my contempt for video games had spread to online dating sites. My reason: there is no sense of.compassion on a dating site, nobody gives a damn, the next button is always just one click away. If your haven't found your dream match, just click the next button to be matched with another! I started to feel that maybe facebook is one big mistake, maybe people shouldn't have thousands of friends, because it desensitizes you to people.

    This idea that maybe the internet isn't such a great place eventually grew to the thought: "did internet porn desensitize me to women?". Soon after, I did some digging and found YBOP. I had realized that I been correct, but change starts within. Even if porn, video games, and the internet are at fault, they were the tools I used to create my hell. It was ultimately my choice to use them. I could play the blame game all the time, but nothing would ever change until I changed. If I want a better life for myself, I need to change my ways. The rest is history.
     
  10. Anon_Fapper

    Anon_Fapper New Member

    I noticed that after a nofap streak I felt great, and one of my friends noticed the same thing. I decided to do a little research and stumbled onto YBOP. I'd been looking for solutions to my various internal demons elsewhere, undertaking some lifestyle changes to try and fix them, but nothing really worked. Not watching porn has worked pretty well.
     
  11. noname1

    noname1 Member

    When I was in the depths of a binge I found a specialized fetish forum and they had a sub forum for ED (although it was more of a 'is it possible to O while soft?' which was a bizarre thing to want to do as most of us want to be able to keep it up not down). The thought stayed with me and I tried searching for it again and found some sites, etc. before finally stumbling on YBOP. I stayed up all night reading it and it described me to a tee, I felt crushed to say the least.

    I started a journal on a forum called npsupport as this forum didn't exist back then (December 2011), but have since migrated here as it's a lot less religious - no offence to that forum or people looking to God for support, but it's not my beliefs so not something I can relate to. Lovely people though who offered a lot of support to me.

    The odd thing is I'd lived with PIED since I was 20 (although it could have been earlier but I was in an horrible single streak!) and never once thought P could be the reason. In fact, there were times I thought about giving it up and started to flatline without knowing why, so I thought the P was keeping my libido alive at least a little bit. Little did I realise that there is that flatline period before things come back, if only I'd have known!!!
     
  12. noname1

    noname1 Member

    The worst thing is I'd spent loads of money on doctors and urologists, viagra prescriptions etc. and at not one point did one of them mention over-masturbation. Even when I told the urologist I masturbated normally at least once a day and have been looking at harder and harder P (was careful to mention "nothing illegal" as, well, I wasn't looking at anything illegal and didn't want him to think otherwise!), but at no point did he mention it.

    He did suggest trying some sexual health books by Masters and Johnson (but didn't even stifle a giggle when I mentioned I would try to "master my johnson with Masters and Johnson), packed me off with some free viagra samples and sent me on my way...
     
  13. fcjl8

    fcjl8 The only path for me

    Men that is a great question. How did I find YBOP? Wow... you would think the site/knowledge base that has literally changed my life would be indelibly imprinted on my mind. I remember looking at YBOP the first few times over a year ago but how did I find it?

    I had been to several Christian based forums and sites dealing with sexual addictions, they were well intended and somewhat helpful but missing so much information. I was getting frustrated and really wanted to know more about this, one of the faith based sites had a link but I don't remember which site. So divine intervention helped me find YBOP.

    I am Christian and still look for faith based sites , none have really made up any lost ground. YBOP is still the leader. Some of the Focus on the Family info is starting to finally get into the science not just a morality stance.

    Thank You YBOP. And thank you to the great people who keep YBR running!!! forever grateful!
     
  14. hogus

    hogus New Member

    I don't even remember how I found it. Googling now though, YBOP doesn't seem accessible without porn in the keywords so there could definitely be some SEO done.
     
  15. That's due to the new filtering system they put in place a short while ago. Maybe even less than a week ago, actually, I don't remember.
    It's a porn filter that is there to stop one from getting nude pictures of women with cakes when you simply googled "cake," or something else. Of course, just adding "porn," or other associated pornographic terms gives you all the porn you were looking for, but otherwise you generally won't find it.
     
  16. e7

    e7 New Member

    I feel stupid looking back at this. How I never connected the dots. When you're in the middle of it, it's kinda hard to see I guess. I felt really hopeless in my journey to find the root cause of my libido problems. I still wonder why most of you still experience some horny feeling. Maybe it has to do with escalation. I didn't escalate to anything weird, always looking at the same 'normal' porn.

    YBOP hasn't been around too long, so I guess I found it pretty early. A lot of research has to be done and unfortunately we are the subjects. Got some theories about rebooting and rewiring myself, I guess we can only test this on ourselves and share the experiences.
     
  17. The Daimon

    The Daimon Be yourself. Don't hide.

    Ironically enough, I found YBOP while I was looking for porn.
    It was like finding myself in front of two paths and, well, knowing that there were so many people wanting to reboot inspired me a lot in taking the right decision.
    > *Naively thought till a week ago that I was one of the very few struggling against PM, or even simply M*
    Well, we still are "very few" to be honest, compared to the uncountable amount of people who still PMO without regards. But hey, it's good to see you're not... alone..
     

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