Discussion in 'Ages 20-24' started by 100DaysMission, Apr 10, 2016.
Sounds promising - I'm envious! You've got a great streak going too.
Thanks Londoner, I do think tinder is much more popular with people my age (its full of university students), and I am pretty good at talking to girls online, so I've been lucky really.
Not much happening today, worked a few hours and just chilled out since then. Had a wet dream last night though. Its interesting, when they happen earlier on in a streak they leave be feeling pretty empty the next day, but when they happen later on (like this one) I feel fine afterwards. Hopefully it's a sign of my body just readjusting back to normality. I'm not especially against masturbation, but I think having multiple orgasms every day of the week for days on end is probably unhealthy. Regardless of how they happen (MO, PMO or even O).
That's neither here nor there I guess really.
Been texting M pretty much all day every day since we matched on Tinder. I tried to break it off a few times, and we don't reply too often to each other until the evening, but we really have spoken a lot and the conversation is getting more and more warm, and flirty too. Hopefully this will start happening when we are in each others company in real life.
It's our third date tomorrow, but it's a long one. We will be together for like 6 hours minimum. That sounds like the most tiring thing in the world to me. Not because of her, I just don't even think there is a soul on earth who I would look forward to spending that long with. Maybe I will be proved wrong.
Anyway I am looking forward to it. I've started to realise that I am definitely starting to miss her in between texts/our dates. And we got dinner last time after the art gallery, and there were a couple of moments when I really realised how beautiful she is. She has the most amazing bright blue eyes, and lovely deep dark hair. Its an unusual combination for me, hut I really do like it.
I think I'll try to be a bit more affectionate tomorrow. She definitely likes me, but whereas I have no fear of affection, I do have a fear of initiating affection. I may just even ask to hold her hand to start with, and at least then she has a sign to interpret that I am attracted to her.
Had another date with M today. I have to cancel the one with K tomorrow.
Me and M went to a concert which she picked. The music was actually really good, but we were kinda awkward - just standing there like two separate people. After about two hours (lol) I went to hold her hand and she flung herself onto me and we held each other for the rest of the gig. Then we kissed (kinda awkwardly) at the end and carried on as we got the train and bus home.
Must have been the first time I have kissed a girl sober for quite a while. I need to find my rhythm again.
But it was really nice to hold a girl, and feel her warmth, and her skin on my skin.
She really, really likes me. Which is cool, because I've just been myself, so I figure if I want her to keep on liking mw I just have to be myself too. But at the minute, she is a lot more into me than I am into her. But this can change right?
Anyway so yeah, we are kind of exclusive, but not actually together yet, gonna just keep hanging and I think. I don't want to sleep with her yet either, because I really want to, before I do. And as well, I don't think I am far enough down the reboot process yet. I was maybe forty per cent hard while making out. This is not ideal, but there may have been mitigating factors (eg I was very tired l, and had a wet dream last night). So yeah, I will see where I'm at next time.
Shattered now, but peace brothers.
A good productive day. My mood and confidence is rising very steadily indeed.
M is coming round to my house tomorrow night. Not sure what is going to happen, we have organised to have a nap together lol. I'm really looking forward to more intimacy, but honestly don't feel ready for sex yet (though I may so tomorrow, we will see how I feel in the moment). If things look like they're heading that way, but I don't want to yet, I feel pretty confident I can turn her down without hurting her feelings. Though I do think it is pretty unlikely, we are both quite restrained people, and its only our fourth date.
Need to clean the house tomorrow I guess. We are two single, twenty something blokes me and my housemate, and we live like that too haha.
Will post an update of what happens tomorrow.
You're doing so great! Seems like you're having a lot of fun. Can't wait to hear more
Your posts are are filled with positivism and you seem to have a good level of confidence going! Keep up the good work mate!
Thanks so much guys! I'm excited for this evening. Been tidying the house all day like Cinderella. All work, ready for some play!
Have good days folks, and your support is much appreciated.
Good luck tonight man, hope it's a blast.
Thanks so much Kick, it was a blast.
M stayed the night in the end, left when I had to leave in the morning. She didn't want to have sex (which is fair enough, we've only known each other for a week and she's not that kind of girl), but she was really horny and we kissed really passionately all night.
We actually did a lot of dry-humping just in our underwear...I ended up coming two times in the end. She found it funny, and I explained that I didn't masturbate (didn't go into the whole porn thing) so I was pretty sensitive down there. She didn't mind though, we had a giggle about it and the next morning she gave me a hand-job. I wanted to get her off too, but she was reluctant so I didn't force it.
But it was really fun, and we spent the whole night in each other's arms. And I'm glad my dick works (not 100% erections, but hard enough to do the job for sure). So that's a relief.
The only concern is getting too involved with this girl. At the minute I feel a very lustful attraction to her, and when we're not being sexual with each other she just feels like a friend. I guess it's all part of re-wiring.
I also feel that whereas I am wary of getting too serious with her, she is wary of getting too casual. So I think I'll talk to her and say that we should just keep enjoying each other's company and not have sex just yet. I don't want to lead her on in that respect, and then realise I don't really want a girlfriend right now. She's a nice girl and that would make her upset. Though I'd really like some advice on this.
She wants to come round tomorrow, but I'm inclined to leave it till Sunday. My dick felt pretty exhausted today, and I don't want to run before I can walk. Also anticipation will be good for both of us.
Thanks for your support guys, things are starting to pick up I think.
Amazing! I'm so happy things are working out. About the sex, I don't think you need to avoid it, if the moment is right you guys should do it. The only thing you shouldn't do is lie to her.
That's just my personal opinion if you're honest she won't hate you, you'll probably become friends with benefits or maybe just friends. At least that's what happens in my life if I don't want anything serious with a girl.
That's a great outcome! Well done mate!
As dontgiveup said, the sex will happen when the moment is right! Spend some time building up your connection with the girl and don't be rushing to the finish line! Take it easy, and as you said: enjoy each other's company!
Wow! Amazing. Sounds wonderful.
Like dontgiveup said, being honest is a very good start.
All the best.
Thank you dontgiveup, I really appreciate your time and responses. Also, it was you who suggested getting Tinder in the first place (I never would have considered getting it otherwise) and this has single-handedly led to a lot of the good that is coming my way at the minute.
It's also really, really refreshing and reassuring to hear someone say just be honest. A lot of advice I've been given (away from this forum) has been to play a girl this way, and tell her this, and do that. It's all very general, and a little deceitful (if not simply manipulative). I don't like lying, or misleading people, so I think your advice is the best advice I've heard so far. I will make sure we both get the opportunity to voice our thoughts when we see each other next.
Thanks so much.
Thank you Aussie Lad, I'm really happy that everyone seems to be agreeing with what dontgiveup wrote, because I think it is the best way of dealing with things too. I will be honest, and go with the flow
Thank you DoW - another tick for honesty...I am thrilled!
Well I am due to hit day 50 today! Half way to fulfilling the prophecy of my stupid fucking username haha. I chose it without thinking really, of course this whole thing is nothing to do with a number. Though 100 days would be nice.
Uneventful day yesterday, M wanted to come round and stay again. I talked her out of it and she's coming on Sunday instead. I still felt really tired from when she last came (we got maybe an hour of sleep), and I have some important rehearsals and practice to do later on today. I've slept 13 hours the past two nights, so I'm feeling refreshed again now.
A long weekend of work (all of it musical thankfully) and then Sunday night gives me something to look forward to.
Feeling good though. Musically I'm on top of my game, and my confidence in other areas is growing. Plus, as much as M is making me happy, I don't feel dependent on her in any way. But looking forward to talking when we next see each other and just clearing things up.
I haven't been having many thoughts of porn lately. The only time I do is when I imagine how to please M sexually. I slept with a few girls when I was a teenager, but it's been a while to be honest. Luckily M is really responsive, and we've already built up an honesty where we tell each other what we like - it makes things a whole lot easier.
The most important part is obviously reading a girl's body movements and responding. I was really good at this when we were making out and fooling around (she got really wet), so I'm not too nervous about taking things further. Everything we did felt really natural and pretty amazing.
Anyway...we shall see what transpires.
Dope job on hitting 50! I hope to be there with you one day, 47 days from now specifically haha, anyways, congratulations on all of your progress man. Just came here to give my support in your journal. Wishing you the best!
Thanks Emmanuel - much appreciated. Congratulations on your 5 days - it gets easier! Take it in chunks
So M came around again last night. She must have stayed here for 15 hours or something, but we got a little sleep this time so that's good. When she left this afternoon I was, and still am, feeling all warm and fuzzy and contented inside.
The first time we tried to have sex I completely lost my erection, and it really fucked with my head. Things petered out and I was just quiet for like an hour beating myself up silently. My head was a mess.
But I managed to collect myself together, and we went again. I got hard enough to penetrate her and came really, really fast lol (just out of relief/desperation). Then a bit later, I went down on her but things didn't work out too well and she just wanted me to fuck her - but again I was completely soft. We slept a bit then tried again but I couldn't get hard.
Then in the morning I was feeling pretty good again and I came from her fingers, and after breakfast I fingered her for ages and she came twice.
So a lot happened. In terms of my erectile dysfunction (not completely happy with that label at the minute), I think that because we tried quite a few times, with minimal success, this wasn't great for my confidence...and sometimes M would only leave it like 20 minutes after I'd either O'd or failed to get an erection before trying again. It wasn't long enough to reset really, but she has a really high sex drive (probably because I didn't actually get round to satisfying her until the morning haha).
But really, performance anxiety or whatever is not my issue. I have a pretty tight foreskin, so the head of my penis is rarely exposed fully (except for cleaning), so when it is forced all the down I find it pretty painful and uncomfortable and I can not stay hard at all.
Now this was not a problem when I was younger. Even now, when I am 80% hard, there is no chance of that foreskin going back very far. It it too tight, and it just stays covering most of my head and I am very happy. But when I only have a 60% erection for example, it will slip back and I am fucked. I told M about this and she started being more gentle and not forcing it back, and things improved considerably.
Subsequently, I have a few options.
1. I can wait, and keep on re-wiring and improve my erections so that I won't have this problem. Though I know that obviously the quality of my erections will decrease the more times we have sex in a night, so this will be a limiting factor of the success of this solution.
2. I can wear a condom. The extra barrier between my dick and the vagina stops my foreskin being pulled back. Simples.
3. I can get some medication to help with the strength of my erections. Appealing also.
4. Having a tight foreskin is an actual medical condition with a funny Latin name. I can get some stuff from the doctors that will stretch it out and make it more loose, but this option doesn't really appeal to me. I could even just do stretching exercises. But honestly, I like my penis and I find nothing pleasurable about exposing my head.
Some advice would be much appreciated then. Especially from anyone who has had experience with a tight foreskin. But at the minute, I am leaning towards getting some medication to help with my erections. Though I will see what happens next time M comes over.
But yes it was a really good night. We were intimate for all of it, then every hour started making out and seeing what happened. She's a pretty amazing girl, and she likes me too. I really like holding her in my arms.
So far it's been what I wanted. And I just feel very grateful about how easily it has come about.
Sounds like an interesting night, man!
I have no experience with a tight foreskin or anything, hopefully someone else here does and can help you decide.
About medication for better erections.. idk, where will it stop? Maybe it's better to find something that fixes it in the long run instead of a quick fix.
Couldn't it be a thing to get used to, I mean, the pain thingy? Like when you have sex regularly that it won't hurt as much so you won't get soft again? In the end it's something the mind does because you can get hard. Maybe after a while the pain isn't such an issue anymore.
Anyway, good things happening. Keep enjoying yourself, I'm happy for you!
About the foreskin I would see a doctor about it for sure, I think my brother had a similar problem but it seems that it's all good now. I think you should try a little more before going for ED pills, I started using them after 2 months of rewiring because I wasn't improving anymore, and not beeing able to have normal sex was killing me.
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