Shemale Porn is a Terrible Addiction

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  1. amgjake

    amgjake New Member

    I consider myself to be a straight male by definition since I have no attraction to men or masculinity. But, I have been addicted to shemale porn for 10 years. I've looked at plenty of other weird stuff involving females prior to that, but now I look at shemale porn exclusively. I have no problem attracting women and I prefer sex to porn, so I never have a strong desire to watch regular female porn.

    I've been trying to stop watching porn for the last few years. I started out counting the days and keeping journals, but this kept it on my mind constantly and made it more difficult. I made it 6-8 weeks on a few occasions. Afterwards, I stopped thinking/worrying about it and it made it easier, but I would get a related dream or thought and end up relapsing a few days later after obsessing over it.

    I've even had sex with shemales on a few occasions and have met up with others. This usually happens after watching shemale porn for days and getting to the point where I just convince myself to try it again. I'm usually disgusted when I meet up with a shemale in real life and the masculinity turns me off completely. But, I continue spending 8-10 hours a day looking for the perfect feminine shemale like in the pornos. I think that maybe it's my true orientation and I'll enjoy it if I find the right one.

    If I spend 3-4 weeks away from shemale porn, the interest begins to fade. Sometimes, I'll even find it unappealing when I first go back to watching it. But, something compels me to keep watching it and not stop or switch to normal porn. After a few days, I'm back into it 100% and it arouses me like nothing else can. I start to lose interest in having sex with females and invest all of my time to shemale porn or trying to meet up with a real shemale.

    I know I'm not the only one who has fallen victim to this. The number of shemale porn sites out there is insane compared to when I first got into it. I've used CraigsList to meet shemales and there are so many guys now who post ads looking for the same thing. Just a few years ago when I first used it, I rarely saw ads like that.

    I've been relapsing for the past week and I'm going to attempt it again. I basically know what I need to do, but it's just discouraging at this stage. I learn new tricks every time though. I've noticed that I've relapsed the last few times after drinking a large amount of alcohol. So, I think cutting back on drinking will need to be addressed also.
     
  2. syndaren

    syndaren New Member

    Stay strong and try to avoid it. Give yourself some time before you decide what really turns you on. I know it sounds trivial and stupid, but it's the only way.
     
  3. amgjake

    amgjake New Member

    Thanks man. Yeah, it just kind of sucks to have to accept that it will always be present in the background. I feel like I'm repressing something. But, knowing that the shemale porn becomes less appealing as I spend time away from it should tell me something.

    I can see how most straight guys would react similarly if put in the same situation (escalating porn genres over years). Some shemales look identical to females. On the other hand, a female-to-male trans person was born a female, but no straight man is going to get turned on by that.

    I've bounced back out of the porn routine today and I should be back on track. I know I can't eliminate orgasms entirely, but I've found that sticking to sex only keeps my mind off of porn and porn fantasies. Once I masturbate, even without porn, it triggers the cravings for porn.
     
  4. newday323

    newday323 New Member

    heybru, thanks for posting that talk. It's fascinating.

    Heads up guys that the talk is slightly triggering. There's nothing too too visual, but there's some slightly arousing material and a lot of references to porn. So if you're in a prone state and particularly if you've been hooked on shemale stuff before, I'd advise against watching it until you're in a less prone mood.
     
  5. That video explains a lot! Thanks, heybru!
     
  6. TylerDurden

    TylerDurden New Member

    Awesome video watching now
     
  7. newday323

    newday323 New Member

    I thought the video was very interesting but I'm skeptical of the research since it didn't involve any longitudinal studies comparing men's porn interests over time. To make the case that men are naturally interested in shemales, you'd have to demonstrate that they didn't escalate to shemales over time from' softer' types of porn.

    Gary Wilson responds to the research here: http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=1669.msg24887#msg24887

    I think the key point for us as recovering addicts though is that even if interest in shemales is somewhat natural for straight guys (which is a huge leap but possible), looking at shemale porn, like any porn, can be totally destructive if we're prone to addiction. That something is natural of course doesn't justify it. Our evolutionary craving for sweets doesn't mean we should spend our days binging on donuts....
     
  8. TheUnderdog

    TheUnderdog Active Member Staff Member

    I was deep into shemale porn.

    I've sucked cock and been fucked in the ass by shemales.

    They will continue to arouse you for the rest of your life, but if you quit porn, your obsession and interest in them will weaken to the point that they will no longer control you.

    Start a journal. Stay away from porn.

    If you happen to relapse, try not to watch shemale porn. If you happen to watch shemale porn, please do not orgasm to a shemale scene. Climax while masturbating to a lesbian scene or something.

    I know how difficult it is to overcome tranny addiction, but it can be done.

    I did it.
     
  9. The Road

    The Road New Member

    I'm in the same boat as you guys, though I've been addicted to shemale porn for about one and a half years so perhaps not as long as some of you. I remember watching the Ogi Ogas video a while back and it did wonders in terms of explaining to me why exactly I was so attracted to this niche. However the fact that it is supposedly so "natural" has left me in a bit of a quandary.

    I seldom think of my attraction to shemales as something shameful - they are real people of course, and registering disgust would amount to prejudice in my view. The fact is that I am (and, it seems, always will be) attracted to them. I am not trying to free myself from this, I am only trying to free myself from porn. Perhaps that's my problem. In a perfect world, I would be free from porn, PIED and PE and would be free to indulge my interest in both women and shemales without fear of reprisal.

    But it's never going to be as easy as that is it. Do you think a life abstaining from porn can include a legitimate attraction to shemales or is that just a pipe dream?
     
  10. newday323

    newday323 New Member

    Going off of what Underdog said above, there's a fine line between attraction and obsession. The first is usually healthy; the second can be self-destructive. There was a time I was so hooked on shemale porn that I would send out postings on a bulletin board site in the middle of the day when I should have been working to see if any transexual women wanted to meet up. That's obsession.

    But legitimate attraction is fine. I think the key question is whether porn has skewed your interests overtime or whether this is genuine attraction. And is it more than just visual attraction? Are you interested in real intimacy with shemales like you are with girls? I think only time will give you good answers. Stay away from porn for a while and see if you're still interested.
     
  11. superduper

    superduper break the chains of porn

    I got into shemale porn at the last year of my porn career. I had absolutely no shame about it, since I found it incredibly amusing since it's taboo.

    Honestly, I completely understood what the guy said in that talk all on my own.

    In fact, I remember when I was first starting to masturbate at age 12-13, a couple times I thought about a penis I saw in a locker room.
    It just stimulated my brain.
    Did I want to touch it? Nope. Do I have any sexual attraction to masculinity? Nope. The male bone and muscle structure, along with hairiness, turns me off sexually big time.

    Seeing a penis actually stimulates us because we have one ourselves, so we have a highly charged response to the idea of it.

    It's just a quirk in the brain, as explained in this video.

    Even though I'm done with porn, I would still seriously get off to some shemale porn right now. ;D
     
  12. The Road

    The Road New Member

    This is the million dollar question really. There's no doubt that if I were to be asked this question two years ago I probably would have recoiled, whereas now I would have to give it some thought. My porn habit has been funneled almost purely into shemale porn for a long while now so I inevitably have a warped viewpoint on the matter. It's almost as if the rational side of my brain is interested in women, while the horny, irrational, weak-willed side keeps pushing this shemale stuff.

    While I would like to experiment with one and would perhaps even be open to intimacy, they would simply have to be one of the ultra-feminine, highly sexualised individuals you find in porn. This is unattainable, really, and is evidence of my, as you quite rightly put it, 'skewed' interest - I'm not interested in transsexuals, only shemales, a construct of the porn industry.

    I will probably always have a residual interest in this but a fulfilling relationship with a girl is what I really want, as I'm sure do most, if not all of the guys who are dealing with this as well. I guess it's a case of understanding how the attraction developed and acknowledging its futility in everyday life; it blocks us from seeking out what we really want - real experiences with female sexuality - if we can so easily indulge our hypersensitivty to the almost cartoonish form of shemale sexuality online.
     
  13. ShameFulled

    ShameFulled New Member

    I Started this terrible addiction when I was young now as I'm 20 this addiction has caused me to lose my childhood friends and my future friends because my roomate who was a childhood friend has stalked my phone and computer with spyware and now tells when I relapse on social media sites, this addiction has ruined my life. I still pull girls at bars and have been told i am atractive but the addiction is overwhelming and I'm filled with instant regret when I relapse followed by anger towards myself and the feeling of nothing else to lose. I hate it, I hate myself, and I'm sorry I've let everyone down, hence the username. I'm not looking for help, I will find my way, I'm just telling you my story and pray to god none of you have to crawl through this mile of shit.
     
  14. Wafflebot

    Wafflebot New Member

    Right mate, God ain't listening if he's real, he's very fucking lazy. Don't feel shame, don't blame yourself. I swear this shemale stuff disgusted me at first. In a way that other porn did not. Then it became tolerable, then I was watching it a lot. I just wonder will it revert back again? I think it may given time, I don't even think it turn me on now (not going to test this theory). Its just I'm more humble and open minded now.

    I think part of it was I wasn't whole as person so I kinda imagined that made me similar to them, if anybody gets my drift ?
     
  15. Metal

    Metal Get busy living or get busy dying

    I think those who are into trannies and getting off to gay porn need to seriously consider if they are bi. Because Ive seen a lot of porn in my time, but that stuff never aroused any sort of interest the moment I saw a dick on the end of it.

    I remember being a member of videobox and being enraged every time they had a tranny porn update because I couldn't imagine who'd be interested in that shit.
     
  16. Big Lebowski

    Big Lebowski Member

    I tend to agree with this too, I get repulsed by the sight of a cock on a women lol, but some of these trannies look like normal women, until you see the big hands and chest hair lol.
     
  17. Metal

    Metal Get busy living or get busy dying

    Yeah I mean, it's a bit like some guy saying that he has a kiddy porn ''fetish'' that he actively seeks out, and has fucked a load of kids but hey he's not really attracted to kids.
     
  18. miracle

    miracle Guest

    I wouldn't say that is a good example at all. Kids are kids - being attracted to kids is a serious mental condition. Kids are not a warped human surgical creation.

    With the tranny topic you get into the whole debate of what is sexuality and gender etc. I'm sure none of the guys on here would be attracted to watching a female who has transformed into a man but has not had a dick added.



    Yeah I mean, it's a bit like some guy saying that he has a kiddy porn ''fetish'' that he actively seeks out, and has fucked a load of kids but hey he's not really attracted to kids.
     
  19. Metal

    Metal Get busy living or get busy dying

    Well I just don't buy into this ''porn made me suck a dick and take it up the bum' theory. Even if I had downed 10 ecstasy pills or had drunk gallons of beer I could never consider that an option.

    I couldn't imagine a gay person suddenly start watching heterosexual porn or start chasing women because gay sex suddenly turned boring.

    I mean there are loads of guys on here going out to perform sex acts with dudes and half dudes and then want to blame on it porn.

    Sorry but porn doesn't force anyone's hand and get them to hook up with she-mans
     
  20. Wafflebot

    Wafflebot New Member

    First of all I doubt people are really totally Gay or Straight. People are probably all in the middle somewhere (whether they want to admit it or not). I have to ask you a honest question Metal, Are you really helping people here?

    At the end of the day I know what is true for me, i know I did not like it at first. You can't compare shemale porn to watching gay porn either. As I don't really think gay people find it a turn-on. As Gary Wilson has concluded it's the 'novelty of porn' that causes a search for more taboo sources. I mean we have all watched two guys do a girl. That's not something I would do either in real life, but it's quite vanilla in a porn sense.
     
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