Here's what I've learned. Porn is not bad. I'll repeat that, PORN IS NOT BAD. Fear and procrastination or whatever negative emotion is linked to escape through porn use is bad. Porn however is not the problem in life. These are consenting adults who are getting paid to perform a service that a lot of people enjoy without difficulty. If your current philosophy is : No porn = life is great, all my dreams come true, I'm the person I want to be With porn = everything is shit You will never achieve your goals and you're living a fantasy. Life is WAY harder than stopping watching porn and no porn does not mean everything will automatically improve for you. Here's what can be done: 1) Let yourself off the hook - You're punishing yourself when you watch porn. You don't need to. Be kind to yourself, especially when you relapse. When you watch porn and don't beat yourself up it stops you binging so you can get back to being productive. 2) Figure out what you want to do - Once you have a clear goal that you really want to make happen, everything falls in to place. Not that achieving your goals is easy, but your life will have meaning and purpose outside of abstaining from porn. If your goal is to stop watching porn then figure out what you want you'll never quit and you're letting fear dictate your actions. Really think about what you want and start working every day to achieve it. 3) Start playing sport and exercising - It's just good for you. Join a sports club or find out where you can play a sport you're interested in local to you. It's important that you play with people too. With a shared activity like sport the focus is less on you, and your ego about who need to be, and just about having fun, getting the ball over or in the net and winning. Playing sport changed my life. Before I was working out solo and it didn't have nearly the same positive effect as when I started playing sport with other people. The social side is one of sport's greatest assets. 4) Get a counsellor - This won't work for everyone. It took me a year before I found the right counsellor. You have to be willing to do the work. These are ways you can improve your life, not things that can hep you stop watching porn. If you are in the cycle of relapse, abstaining, then hating yourself when you relapse again, you are simply putting off getting your life in order. Get yourself together. Porn is not stopping you. YOU ARE.