Porn free february 2018

Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by Ansem, Feb 1, 2018.

  1. spoofy

    spoofy Active Member

    Start of the week, feeling overwhelmed by stress of what "needs to be done" this week.
    this is usually the trigger for a craving ... but I went to watch some standup comedy instead.

    It helps me realize it's all bs, life is not worth taking seriously, I already get a tremendous amount of work done every week so everyone can suck my dick with those imposed deadlines trying to squeeze extra work out of me.
     
  2. It helps to have a reason to quit. If you are quitting, but not for a specific reason, I think it is bit more difficult. The reason for quitting is the motivation that often allows us to put day after day behind us. If you are getting clean, you are going to have to months of days behind you, during which time you must avoid porn and the resulting dopamine spike it produced. In time, your brain can and will return to baseline, at which point the cravings begin to seriously diminish, and, often, just go away. You will never be able to completely forget you can get that high via porn, thanks to the ever reliable DeltaFosB. But, once clean, you will have very few bad days, and the bad days you do have will not be nearly as bad as the suicidally bad days you go through in the initial reboot. So, I ask rhetorically, what problems has porn caused in your life? Those are what you might focus on ending as your motivation.

    This, from Gary Wilson.

    https://yourbrainonporn.quora.com/4-Warning-Signs-Is-Your-Porn-Use-a-Problem

    Credit to Androg.

    Much love.

    Will

    Oh, yeah, almost forgot. Day 5, Clear. No porn.
     
  3. Pete McVries

    Pete McVries New Member

    Smooth sailing for me at the moment. I had some urges in the beginning of my reboot, but as of now, I rarely get urges and most of the days, I don't even actively think about abstaining from porn which is nice. Nevertheless, I need to stay vigilant as I know that cravings can occur at any given moment.
     
  4. OK, day 6, Clear. 6 days in February where I am not using porn to spike my dopamine levels. In the beginning, this was a moment by moment exercise. It took me at least four months, initially, before I quit asking myself if I could go the entire day, and knew I could. I was pretty hooked. Now it is easy. It can be for you too, but you just have to practice. As in, every day. I am almost 5 years free. It is really just a matter of putting in the time and effort. Porn addiction is death worship. Choose life. You can do what you want.



    George "W" Bush.
     
  5. NewTerritories

    NewTerritories virtual

    Yesterday I took a risky look at the crazy world of AI-generated porn. This was for research purposes only, I assure you.

    I'm back to a more irregular schedule. Last week I was doing... let's say volunteer work. Now, I'm back to looking for a job. Got a date this week.
     
  6. Ansem

    Ansem Member

    Dang, I got some bad news today and I just needed to get rid of the anger. Turns out the dopamine canon called porn was my direct choice. I really need to learn not to rely on porn to vent.

    Anyways, I lost the challenge but I'm still going pornfree for the rest of the month!
     
  7. Living

    Living Member

    I'm out too. Perhaps taking on a month challenge was a bit too much to ask of myself in this stage of my reboot. Not that I can't do it, but right now I'm still at the stage where I'm making beginner's mistakes:)
     
  8. You won't be ready to quit until you are ready to quit. When you are ready to quit, you will quit.

    Today is 7 days free, February. No going back.

    Will.
     
  9. Day 8. Clear.
     
  10. NewTerritories

    NewTerritories virtual

    Welp I failed. Alcohol was involved. Even if I drink only moderately, perhaps I need to take a long break from that as part of PMO recovery.
     
  11. Pete McVries

    Pete McVries New Member

    My reboot is going super smoothly at the moment. I honestly don't know what happened. Last year, I wasn't able to go a few days without looking at porn or masturbating or doing both. Maybe, I finally managed to change my mindset. I'm 30 yo, it's about fucking time to get rid of this problem. I only had sex twice in my life (not counting the numerous times where I failed to get it up). I missed out on so many possible relationships and it messed and is still messing with my mental health big time. I'm not even looking forward to engage in meaningless sex once I'm rebooted and rewired, I just want to be able to engage in sex healthily whenever the opportunity presents itself. Also, I want to be a father one time and start a family. As of now, I wouldn't be able to, thanks to PIED. PIED is the single biggest obstacle in my life and I want to finally get rid of it.

    I'll share a video that helped me a lot staying the course. It's like he's telling my story, that's why it resonates so much with me. And it also shows me, that rebooting is possible despite the fact that I have been a very heavy porn addict since the age of 17.

     
  12. Noah Church is one of the leading experts on porn addiction and recovery. It is important to have experts in recovery. While Gary Wilson has spent a lot of time explaining and understanding the mechanics of the addiction, there is a lot less hard science about how to become unaddicted. I suggest everyone click on the above video.

    @NewTerritories . I failed for 14 months until I figured out I was not addicted to porn, but was addicted to the dopamine rush it produced. Understanding that was very helpful. Take time to study the brain mechanics of what you are doing, and it will be easier, if still very difficult. By the way, much of the mechanics that are involved in porn addiction, and using porn, are involved in alcohol addiction, and using alcohol. If the alcohol is contributing to you using porn, then, yeah, skip the booze during the reboot.

    Will
     
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  13. Day 9, clear. This exercise has been interesting to me. Though almost 5 years clear, I have not been near "hardmode" for a lot of that. So, for instance, in the reboot, I did not quit watching R rated movies, but, when the sex came on, I closed my eyes to prevent a dopamine spike. Now, I keep my eyes open. Not saying it won't spike my dopamine, but it does not threaten to make me relapse. Same with vanilla porn and Victoria Secrets like magazines. In the reboot, they were absolutely no no. I still don't pick them up, but they are not absolutely verboten. I still do not indulge it because it would give me a dopamine rush, but this far out, avoiding it is so much my religion, as just my daily habit. So, during the January and February challenges, I have gone back to pretty close to my initial rebooting habits, which is strictly avoiding all artificial sexual stimulation, not just porn, but artificial sexual stimulation that is everywhere in our society. It has been interesting to do this close to a hard reboot again after all these years. Of course, rebooting does not just involve avoiding porn, but it involves avoiding all artificial sexual stimulation that results in a dopamine hit. And, all of it does. If you are a porn addict, you can avoid porn, but, if you are a porn addict and experience porn, you cannot avoid the dopamine hit that follows. It is important to learn what we control and what we do not.

    Day 10 of this February challenge tomorrow. I don't think I will do the March challenge, but I intend to finish February out.

    Good luck to all of you.

    W.
     
  14. spoofy

    spoofy Active Member

    11th already, so far so good ...

    I'm glad to say no to craves, weekend now which is the hardest, ended up spending the night talking to random people instead of late night binge, no regrets.
     
  15. Day 10, clear. Getting clean is a chore. It is work. It takes getting up in the morning, and the first thought must be "not today." Especially in the beginning, you will have to have that thought a few hundred times a day. Eventually, it gets less difficult, and somewhere out there, you wake up, and you don't have the thought, because you have, via brain plasticity, rewired, rebalanced, your brain to live without the instant dopamine hit porn allows us to access.

    abe Deem, of Reboot Nation, has given excellent advice for addicts who desire to become unaddicted: Read everything. If you are quitting porn addiction in ignorance of the brain mechanics behind it, you are stepping into a boxing ring with your hands tied behind your back wearing a blindfold. In case you are wondering, that means you are going to get your ass kicked. Not maybe: your ass will be kicked. But, once you start studying the problem, once you get educated, you will still get your ass kicked when quitting...but at least you will be able to throw a few punches yourself. Sorry, no easy way out. Anyone telling you they have an easy way out is lying to you. It just does not happen that way. That said, you CAN get clean. This is truth. So, study the problem. We are arousal addicts. That is a bit different than drug addicts. Drug addicts, over time, need "more." We, over time, need new and different, to get the same high.

    Read, study, learn. Getting clean is exercise and homework.

    One day you will wake up, and clean will be your new normal. I promise.

    WILL.

    https://www.helpguide.org/harvard/how-addiction-hijacks-the-brain.htm

    Back tomorrow to post 11 days clear in February. The first day is the longest day. Never too late to make today day 1.
     
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  16. 11. Enough said. Where is everyone else? Time to make the change.
     
  17. Tea-man

    Tea-man Member

    Day 11 down; and going strong this year also. I'm feeling in control at the moment, and I'm not thinking about porn - now that doesn't mean I'm immune to distraction mind you, but it's a good start
     
  18. Day 12. Clear.
     
  19. In the beginning, in the reboot, it was the most difficult and painful thing I did. Quitting. Now, sure, I can have a moment when I miss it, but it does not control me, not even for a second, and I have weeks and months where I do not miss it at all. Today was one of those days. They have become my normal. Day 13, Clear. Tomorrow, day 14. I don't count anymore. This monthly challenge is just fun at this point. I always have a general idea of how long I have been Clear, but I care not for counting. Still, the hard 90 helps, so, when you get serious, do it.

    Much love.

    Will.
     
  20. Day 14, Clear. One of the great side effects of quitting porn is that everything works, and since it does work, I like to take it out for a spin, once in a while. So, tonight your boy is getting lucky. Wait, who I am kidding? It actually took a bit of skill.

    How do we help ourselves? You know the answer: We help ourselves by helping others. Get out and help yourself. That is part of the method of quitting.

    Back tomorrow.

    W
     

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