My unique struggle with Femdom addiction ( almost 24 yo with no gf )

Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by zaba99, Apr 6, 2018.

  1. zaba99

    zaba99 New Member

    Hallo guys :)

    I am a 5.3 ft guy with average look ...

    I have been reading some femdom related threads but i think that i have a worst case then everyone here :(

    I got internet connection when i was 13 , but the problem that my Femdom fantasy was even before i discover femdom on internet , since i was on primary school ( around 8-10 ) i always had this live-in slave for Womens and i was always looking at my female teachers feet and enjoying seeing them slapping/punishing someone else or even me ! and masturbating on some magasine queens pics ...

    When i was going to shopping with parents and meets some olders beautiful females i always had an idea to serve them and getting enslaved , i was always saying that why peoples had ended slavery ? coz all of i wanted is to be slave for a women ! especially when i see a film scene with women and her slave it's turn me on !

    But watching porn since age 13-14 has only escalated my Femdom to more ... , but it's not the reason !!!

    ( The only good news is that now my Femdom fantasy works most of the time in my head and when i am home
    But i am not getting a lot of Femdom fantasy with girls in streets ... )

    I am wondering since the problem it's from childhood and not only porn related ,
    If there is any solutions for me to get over it !?


    I joined recently a GYM and i am into PUA ( #rsdmax :p ) since more then year but i am not getting any results :(
    I want to be an attractive guy for females !!! But sadly dominants girls don't exist outside screen !!
    and no one is getting attracted to dwarf guys :(
    I have moved to Germany recently and want a better life here !

    HELP !!!
     
  2. FritzBrause

    FritzBrause “You dogs, do you want to live for ever?”

    What exactly do you mean with not getting results? What have you tried?

    I tried looking up this rdsmax thing but i didn't find anything other than a twitter feed with people taking selfies with girls and youtube clickbait. This whole pickup artistry is not all there is to human interaction. It's definetly good if you are able to approach girls and be confident but if there's no personality behind all the flashy PUA tricks what good does that do you?

    You said you are a foreigner. How good is your German? If your German is poor, that's something you want to work on.

    What does your friend circle look like? Do you go to parties or meet with friends where you might meet new people?

    You said you want to be attractive to women. There's many things that can make you attractive to women.
    There's obvious things like good looks, money and influence, and all those superficial things which are nevertheless relevant.

    Having skills is also something that women like, whether it's cooking or speaking a particular language, being educated or playing an instrument. There's a reason why there's so many dudes playing guitars, because girls like that.

    Social skills are also great. And i don't mean PUA stuff, but being able to get people to open up to you, make friends, throw parties and things like that.

    If you want, just describe a couple recent experiences with women you approached and maybe we can find something that could be improved upon.
     
  3. zaba99

    zaba99 New Member

    @FritzBrause
    Dude , first i am only from 2 months and i am still Learning language ...

    Sorry but this is not the subject of my thread i am not posting to talk about PUA , because it's made me more confident and i am able to go directly to a girl and try to pick-up her but need to work on my physique to get some results ...

    My problem is with Femdom dude and this is why i am posting ...
     
  4. niskanen91

    niskanen91 Active Member

    Hey zaba99,

    That's a feeling that a lot of folks into femdom have, you're not alone.



    From my experience, after giving up porn (I watch mostly femdom) vanilla stuff starts to be exciting. I'm in the same boat as you, this fetish existed before porn and you have to accept that you can't have normal sexuality if you continue to watch porn. Masturbating to fantasies in your head is another trap.

    Joining gym was good idea. Being into PUA is not if you expect any "results". If you want to improve your relations with women, PUA isn't an answer (been into PUA as well, we had weekend trip to other city once, 15 guys, everyone tried to pick up girls for whole weekend, the results were 2 kisses and 0 sex (for 15 guys!). PUA is a waste of time.

    When it comes to your height, I'd advise you to only go for girls shorter than you, that's what my short friend used to do and it was effective strategy.

    Of course, it is not a subject but what this guy is doing can actually help you.

    So far PUA techniques have given you zero results (like to me and literally all people I know)? Also going directly to a girl without zero context is actually pretty bad startegy, contrary to what PUAs preach.
     
  5. VJ

    VJ New Member

    @niskanen91 how do you see masturbating to femdom fantasies as a trap , is there a way out to have Nirmal sex ? The reason I am asking is I got into trap past 16 years without watching femdom porn or vanilla porn . Only femdom fantasy was my sexual outlet to masturbation but I am currently doing pmo for past 127 days still yet to get interest in vanilla sexual feelings
     
  6. niskanen91

    niskanen91 Active Member

    I don't know, I didn't achieve "normal sex" but my achievements are feeling a little life in my penis while kissing with a girl (happened with 2 different girls) and also after 3 month streak feeling sexual excitement while talking to a girl. All of those 3 girls were objectively hot.

    When it comes to your question, based on my experience and what I've read (I've masturbated a lot to femdom fantasies), it definitely slows the progress, in my case I'd say it kills it completely. There was example of a guy in 18th or 19th century (so obviously before internet porn) where he couldn't get excited by normal sex, his whole sexual life was masturbating to femdom fantasies. As someone who masturbated a lot to femdom fantasies I think there are few reasons why this is a trap:
    - you are not conditioning your sexuality to the real partner,
    - you're conditioning it to unrealistic fantasies (at least mine fantasies have like zero chance of happening in real life).

    I think that this case is different for "femdom" and "vanilla" folks, so while porn harms both of those groups, "femdom" group has much larger consequences of masturbating to fantasies in their head.
     
  7. VJ

    VJ New Member

    Yes what you said is true. Femdom fantasy is more harm but I still believe we do have exist from this trap and I am on 136th day getting little life down with my partner but movie hot scenes attracts me like anything in sexual way which I never had before but still I am getting strong sexual leading to ejaculation like I get for femdom fantasy. Hope We will succeed soon definitely
     

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