I'm going to cut myself off from internet access completely

Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by Ichoosetofightback!, Apr 20, 2018.

  1. Ichoosetofightback!

    Ichoosetofightback! New Member

    I'm chucking out my sim cards, ending my wifi subscription and I'm going to use an old phone for calls and texts. Time to force this thing out with extreme measures.
    Adios
     
  2. Joshua Shea

    Joshua Shea Member

    Since this guy is now among the Amish and will never see this, I'm curious what people think about this tactic. For those of us who are in recovery, either deep or recent, does this seem like a viable strategy? To me, at least, it sounds like someone trying to quit smoking who throws out their cigarette lighter and says they won't go into 7-11 again. The tools of the addiction are never the addiction.
     
  3. Sticky

    Sticky Member

    I went down this route, Ive met many others who have too. And it didnt work. As a tool in early stages of recovery sure, it is useful but its not the solution.
     
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  4. Joshua Shea

    Joshua Shea Member

    Yeah, and looking back, I guess I did in a way as well. I guess you have to cross the easy fixes on the "How to Cure My Addiction" list before you recognize it's going to be the hard fixes that makes you sober.
     
  5. Mirrrah

    Mirrrah Member

    I remember my laptop broke when I was 19 and back then I had a shitty flip phone with no internet access. Got more stuff done in those 2 months than I did for the other 10 months of the year. Once the laptop was back so too was my bad habit.
     
  6. Rotting Log

    Rotting Log New Member

    I like to read, but I might only read one book or just a few over the course of a year. But when I lose access to the Internet I read more than that in a single week. I remember in 2014 I didn't have access for 5 days, I read two books cover to cover and half of a third, and these were dense books, not fluff. As soon as I have Internet access I'm again wasting my time.
     
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  7. Mirrrah

    Mirrrah Member

    It's no wonder childhood felt like everything was adventurous and living in the moment; most of us over 25 or so weren't glued to a screen.

    I think the information addiction caused by being online is instant gratification that you don't get in the real world, and that too becomes deadened as you don't have to work or endeavour on adventure for it.
     
  8. Doper

    Doper New Member

    If you don't need internet for making money (which is unfortunately the case for me), I think getting rid of it or severely restricting it is the greatest tactic of all. At least for a few months, especially if you are trying to fix PIED. After this time reevalutate how your life has changed. I'm sure I'm also severely addicted to "information searching" and it all plays together. Having a computer in front of me isn't a problem 99.9% of the time. But that tiny sliver of time that it is a problem is destroying my life. And I have thought through so many different ways of thinking about the situation, and different tactics. But the it should be obvious to anyone if you get rid of the internet, you can't look at any damn porn and you will have time to fill with other productive pursuits. In effect, problem is solved.
     
  9. Joshua Shea

    Joshua Shea Member

    The problem is only solved if you're not a porn addict. Addiction is a brain disease and you don't get rid of it, you learn to cope with it. It's like suggesting to a diabetic if they don't eat candy anymore that the problem is solved. It's not. Anybody who is a real addict knows they're just going to find porn another way, like on their phone, through cable TV, magazines...eliminating one way of getting porn may make it more difficult briefly. Once porn is being looked at through other ways, the addict will rationalize that if they're looking porn the other ways, they may as well bring the Internet back. People need to address their addiction, both by addressing the underlying cause (some kind of childhood trauma with 94% of porn addicts) and developing effective tools for coping moving forward. This is not done by pulling the plug.
     
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  10. Sticky

    Sticky Member

    I spent years going down this route (trying to remove the internet etc) and ultimately the disease just evolved. I think its important in early days to have filters in place etc but ultimately you need to treat the cause not the symptom.
     
  11. Doper

    Doper New Member

    I guess it depends on your unique situation and what your triggers are, but to me relapsing and jerking off to something on tv, magazines, dating sites or just pictures or ANYTHING that isn't hardcore tube sites, compilations or anything that just completely roils your brain is infinitely better than the latter. Now, the former still contributes to PIED, I have proven that to myself because I have not gotten much better. since for the last few months I have many times screwed up and jerked off to dating sites, which has been my substitute, or fantasy. And have only watched the hardcore stuff a few times. But those were the times where I really felt like crap after and turned into an awkward weirdo around women and people in general. Other than that I was pretty cool around people even after messing up. So to me it's the lesser evil. Though thankfully I never had a problem with phones as I've never seen the draw of watching porn or anything on a tiny screen. So my phone aint a trigger. And jerking off isn't really my addiction, it is watching hardcore porn.
    But the porn is only a part of the reason to restrict internet use, because I'm sure I'm not the only one here that is also really addicted to "information seeking" on the web, and I find just sitting in front of the screen, if I'm out of things that I want to search for, that is a major trigger, because now I'm sitting in front of a computer without a reason, so my mind turns to porn. It just happened to me 10 minutes ago, that's why I'm here. If it weren't the fact that porn makes your dick not work, I'd say internet addiction is far more destructive and insidious, it's just it doesn't have some major symptom that we know about (yet).
     

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