I think my dad is looking at porn - what should I do?

Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by Monkey, Feb 6, 2013.

  1. evgtrees

    evgtrees Member

    I woudn't go confronting about it if it was my dad. I don't know how old OP is but, regardless of his age, if he confronts his dad, his dad will backfire and things will go a little intense between them two. Its best to keep quiet about this, and let him do what he wants to do. He might be a little upset and is using it for a little relief.

    But, if you really want to get back at your dad for any grudges you have against him, now is the time. Unblock your firewall, and somehow have your mom or your sister walk in on your dad while he is doing PMO. That will really fuck him up.
     
  2. fugu

    fugu "You know, feelin' good, livin' betta." :) Staff Member

    I would try just asking him if he does watch porn! If he says yes, show him YBOP and tell him how things can turn out for him.
     
  3. evgtrees

    evgtrees Member

    How do you think his dad will react to this? Things will change and his dad will get violent. Trust me on this.
     
  4. CitizenErased

    CitizenErased Age:21

    create fake email
    send him link to YBOP
    easy...
     
  5. Monkey

    Monkey Everyday is a success.

    I actually thought of doing that, but he would most likely think its spam and trash it, I assume.
     
  6. TrainingTheDragon

    TrainingTheDragon New Member

    I think you shouldn't be passive about this. Down the line it could really damage the relationship your parents have with each other (if it doesn't already) and that would in some way affect you as well. Maybe a heart to heart is in order. Might be scary and tough but at least you'd have tried.
     
  7. picats3141

    picats3141 Active Member

    Honestly, on the whole confrontation/non-confrontation issue, you need to take into account what kind of person your father is--is he very calm, carefully hears you out when you try to tell your side of the story, and accepting of his wrongdoings? Or does he explode violently at the littlest things, and get very protective of things like this? Just wondering, does he have any other habits, like smoking or drinking? I would say only confront him if you guys are very close and open with each other--if you guys are very tense and don't talk much, maybe not the best.

    I have an idea if you guys have at least somewhat open line of communication--get brave enough and admit to him that you have a porn problem, and need someone to help you through it.

    It's definitely a tough call, because on one hand, you don't want him to ruin his life with PMO, but on the other hand, you don't want to ruin your relationship.

    One thing I experienced with my parents a few years ago when they found out about my porn use was that our relationship got very awkward for a while, but has been slowly but surely healing. However, when some news story comes on about teens using porn or something, everyone has sealed lips and we pretend like it doesn't even exist. So, I know things can definitely get worse after that kind of "talk" with my dad.
     
  8. Monkey

    Monkey Everyday is a success.

    We have an ok relationship, but I'm definitely closer with my mom than my dad. And I don't think he would ever admit to looking at porn in the first place. As suggested earlier, if I were to intervene, I believe the best way would be anonymous in telling him about YBOP. But for now, I'm just gonna wait it out.
     

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