I Failed. I Let Everyone Down.

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by RebornAgain, Jun 13, 2017.

  1. RebornAgain

    RebornAgain Beating my addiction one day at a time..

    Many of you know me for my ability to quit porn and stay away from porn.

    Things went really shitty to really good in a matter of 2 years. I was finally getting somewhere. I was finally improving. Growing.

    I met a great girl and we got engaged last June. We had a wedding planned for September of this year. I've never been in a relationship like this one. Yet somehow, I managed to throw it all away. I slept with an escort last month and the truth came out.

    My whole world and future came crashing down. I may have successfully quit porn. But I've messed up my life and even worse, I've destroyed someone else's. My significant others. The one woman who I'm supposed to have her back no matter what. Thick and thin.

    Please learn from my mistakes. I let everyone down. I let myself down.
     
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  2. Does your dick work properly now? No offence, but I think no one here cares of your moral dilemma. 99% of us just want a rock hard cock. What you do with it later is beyond this forum. I repeat, I'm not trying to bash your post, it's just an opinion of the. majority . We'd have a problem if you relapsed to porn.
     
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  3. Rengaw

    Rengaw Will log on every other week from 13/10/2016

    Haha you're being a real blunt dick right here but you're not wrong. Porn addiction is all about fucking as much women as you can, and once you actually know how to fuck - that's when the problems could start. That's your current situation RA. Addiction is over but the brain is far from normal. You're somewhere in a twilight zone.

    Your life isn't over yet, there's much to live for. In fact, I know many men - through SAA - that have been in far worse situations and addiction rehab and relation therapy worked out their terrible situations.
    If she is the right one for you and you are the right one for her you should consider these steps.
    No matter what at this point there's only a more positive outcome.
     
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  4. Bullshit. Thousands of guys fuck multiple girls and its not a fucking some super bad addiction. Stop being a wimp and admit that guys now, 250 years back, and 250 years from now will want to stick their flag into every territory. Do you think Genghis Khan had this pussy-ass-attitude? I fucked another girl what am I going to do?
    IF YOUR DICK WORKS EVERY TIME, THIS SHIT IF FUCKING DONE!
    Only problem here is that we're more attracted to pixels than to actual female body. I can jerk off 10x a day to porn without any problems, and I ask myself why my dick didn't work with a real girl.
    If the dick works properly, I personally don't give a shit about this moral thing you're wining about.
     
  5. Tseldo

    Tseldo Active Member

    My dick has always been working properly, and recovery isn't just about this. Recovery is about stopping porn + recovering from whatever negative effects you suffer from porn (including but not limited to erection issues).

    RebornAgain, why did you see that escort? And is it absolutely irreparable with your SO?
     
  6. Stop_Hammertime

    Stop_Hammertime New Member

    Have you thought about why you slept with the escort? Were you desperate for sex? Desire to sleep with someone else?

    If you're engaged maybe you and your partner would be interested in getting to the root of why exactly you did, so you can see if it's something that can be resolved. See a therapist or someone who can offer you professional advice.

    And why did you post this in success stories?
     
  7. shattered

    shattered Member

    Just quickly reading this post, but realize ED issues and emotional/mental issues are related. You can't really separate these aspects of life.
     
  8. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    I'm sorry to hear about that, but you didn't let everyone down...you're still porn free, and you've accomplished a lot. You need to learn from this mistake...but there will be other girls. Or perhaps you will work it out with this one.
     
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  9. Striveforpurity

    Striveforpurity All praise and glory to our Lord Jesus Christ.

    This is the problem when someone thinks they have successfuly "quit porn" but have not addressed the root of the issue which is lust.

    Perhaps you was "playing a good game" with this woman in order to marry her (as you thought if you did that you would be "changed") but you really still had issues with sexual compulsive behavior that needed to be addressed.
     
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  10. Striveforpurity

    Striveforpurity All praise and glory to our Lord Jesus Christ.

    Shame on you. That's bullcrap. Yourbrainrebalanced is not purely an erectile dysfunction forum.

    Lots of people here want to change their lives for the better not just cure ED so they can go off to pursue a hedonistic lifestyle and eventualy relapse back to porn.
     
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  11. NewTerritories

    NewTerritories virtual

    Well... this is a bad situation. But I encourge you not to overdramatise what happened. You didn't let everyone down. (E.g. you didn't let ME down.) You didn't destroy your fiance's life.

    It's not clear from what you've written whether she's still with you or not. Maybe you weren't sure at the time you wrote it. This situation isn't hopeless!
     
  12. Cozmo

    Cozmo Member

    time to push your self into a new experience, hope youll get through this
     
  13. jack91

    jack91 Find your way throuh

    ahh. Little supprised gotta admit that. I myseöf have been avoiding relationships because im far from reliable partner. Sometimes decent thing to do is confort the truth and accept the truth and in that light make decisions, if u cant be trustworthy be alone. Its no shame, its just the way it is.
     
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  14. Unbinding

    Unbinding Member

    I hope you've been back on the horse since this post. And I hope things worked out in your relationship.
     
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  15. sower

    sower New Member

    Dude did you ignore the sticky about success stories only in this section or what?

    No offense.

    Best belated wishes.
     
  16. sower

    sower New Member

    Just stfu and gtfo.
     
  17. sower

    sower New Member

    Sounds wisely cautious.
     
  18. sower

    sower New Member

    Ya. A giant mistake was made. I've slept with escorts. It is much worse than fapping in several ways but I'm not here to elaborate on sex addiction and contributing to the demand for prostitution, escort is a fancy word for hooker man.
     

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