How to stop thinking about other women?

Discussion in 'Social Advice' started by adrew, May 18, 2018.

  1. adrew

    adrew New Member

    Hello guys,

    I am being friends (others think we are a couple, but we don't have a label) with a girl that is a very good as a person. We share same dreams and she is supporting me in any way and will follow me wherever my life path will take. She just graduated from masters and landed in a very good job, similar to me with high life ambitions. I would say her personality and attitude is the one I want in person as for the future wife.

    However, the sex for me with her is not fulfiling, although she accepts and fulfils any fantasy I want. Everything would be amazing but there is something strange with me.

    I treat almost every woman as a sex object. Sometimes I hang out with random girls with zero ambitions (and even not the best in look) just because I want to fulfil my sexual fantasies and then ditch them. I have done that and I feel empty after I did this. I do know that it's completely bad.

    It ruins my days and productivity as I think constantly about other women.

    I am trying to figure out why my brain or emotions works this way.

    Usually, for the humans the things you can't get you want the most, perhaps the girl I am seeing gives me everything and that makes my life easier and boring? Or it's just my sex drive, I am only 25. I am a healthy guy who doesn't drink/smoke and do sports.

    What is your experience or suggestions?
     
  2. spoofy

    spoofy Active Member

    You're normal, everything you've been taught by society, tv and such is a lie.

    Humans are genetically built for serial-monogamy (women included), as spouse diversity is superior from evolutionary standpoint.
    There's a book called "sex at dawn" which explains it really well, and a million youtube videos around that subject, which are unfortunately ignored by society & mainstream media.

    Understanding this is very important, because it makes one realize a hot stranger they're falling for will become boring after a while, meanwhile their long-term partner will still offer something they can never fulfill, all the best.
     
  3. adrew

    adrew New Member

    What would you suggest? Educate my self and accept as it is or see a psychologist?
     
  4. spoofy

    spoofy Active Member

    Would you see a psychologist because you're hungry for food few times a day?

    You can't change your nature, you can try to repress it but I think it will only make you miserable.

    We all wanna constantly fuk women lmao, that's why the entire population is addicted to porn :p
    But thinking about it all day aint gonna make it happen, you don't have to like it but such is life.

    Just find something of higher priority to get your attention, for me it's long-term business prospects.
    There's also ways to boost productivity bro, gotta get that sweet dopamine release ey, all the best.
     
  5. jack91

    jack91 Find your way throuh Staff Member

  6. adrew

    adrew New Member

    I do know what you mean, but when those actions and thoughts are dominating over my personal life and my career then there is a problem. I know I could go and speak with someone that I would pay for the session to talk but I know that I can deal with this on my own, I just don't have the knowledge but I know the consequences. There must be a way that will get rid of this without the harm for everyone.
     
  7. spoofy

    spoofy Active Member

    Ah yap gotcha, makes sense now.

    Regarding career, may i ask if you are employed at a job under a boss, or run your own business?
     

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