Hey, I am in desperate need of advice on this situation. My 29 yr old boyfriend has PIED pretty bad. We have been together for 6 months now and we have NEVER had sex. I just got out of a 7 year marriage (got married pretty young I am 30 now) where I did not like having sex with my ex-husband for like 4 years of that marriage. It was more cause I was not attracted to him but anyways I get out the relationship and I am ready to be sexually active again and I feel like I have 4 years of sex to make up LOL. I met my boyfriend and he is amazing in every way other than this HUGE issue that he can't get hard to have sex. He almost never gets hard even during foreplay and even when he is using toys on me he wont get hard at all not even slightly. I am so tired of reading articles or advice that tells you to use toys in bedroom as an alternative but 6 months of just toys is way to much and the type of connection you get from actual sex and intimacy is nothing like him using a toy on you. I tell him all the time "why would I want to use a toy with you only?", I don't need a man to use a toy on me I can do that by myself and get the job done quicker. (mean but true) Obviously as every woman would think that every time we go to the bedroom he wont get hard you automatically think that its you. He's not attracted to me and then he will say he is but you will think that oh if he was he would get hard. And I know he loves me and thinks I am beautiful but it just makes me feel absolutely horrible and when I start feeling that way I become angry and confrontational and pretty mean. I pretty much tear him apart every weekend for the last 6 months because I am so frustrated with issue. I know it doesn't help at all but I don't know how to deal with an issue like this. Sex is such an important part of a relationship (as I learned from my marriage) that I feel like our relationship isn't complete or normal. He has started NO FAP and not relapsed (or so he tells me) already for a month now but I am getting really impatient with him cause he didn't do anything about this issues for the first 5 months although I asked him to figure out what's wrong and i feel like he wasted time and that makes me angry. I also asked him to go to the Doctor and see if he can get Viagra or something to get a boost and he says he wont do it yet. He says in a couple more weeks he will because he thinks that NOFAP is working but I don't see much of a difference when he is with me. He gets hard way more often now and it last longer BUT only when I am not around! When I am around maybe it will get hard at a really random time and will only get hard for a few seconds, not even a minute. Once in blue he will get hard and I will start to play with it and all seems good until the possibility of sex comes into play that it goes completely down and wont come back up no matter how hard I try. Every week that goes by and we don't have sex like normal it just makes me so mad and frustrated that I take it out on him and we almost argue every week about this. I don't know what else to do and need some advice by people who are in the same/similar situation. I would love to know how did you deal with it? Did it ever actually get fixed and how long did it realistically take? *Sorry for the long post but there's a lot to get off my chest!