Hentai

Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by Saber, Jun 3, 2018.

  1. Saber

    Saber New Member

    Hey guys new here, couple of questions. First my addiction to porn is almost entirely on hentai. I have looked at 'real' porn and gotten off of course, but it doesnt hold the same appeal to me. I have done a lot of reboots, 30, 50 and even a 90, but always drawn back to hentai.

    My life is in order, married, (she knows I look at it) a kid, a job, exercise etc. I view it as a way to relax, but deep down wonder if it is messing up my life.

    It is 'worse' for you than regular porn?

    Also where do specific fetishes come from? I have a bad draw towards step-relationships (the forbidden aspect of it)? What would this be indicative of?

    I know many dont talk about hentai on here, but know its really popular. Is appears to be a hidden addiction.
     
  2. spoofy

    spoofy Active Member

    I feel ya bro, ya It's just like any other fantasy taboo, it hits you with way higher dopamine dose. (esp as searching for it is much harder)
    It's the equivalent of those mystery meat burgers they sell at mcdonalds for obese people :p

    You say your life is in order, married with a kid ... dude there's nothing in order about that, marriage + kids is a headache let's be real here ;)
    If you wanna break it down, you got stresses in your life, and that quenches them better.
    Maybe it's a mechanism for evolution, whereas if there are obstacles to get sex, it only makes the animal more keen to get it.

    Mad props for laying it out in the table btw
     
  3. Saber

    Saber New Member

    Laying it out in the table?

    Anyway what are you saying in general about it? My wife is really low libido lately with the kid. After working out I am super horny and it just doesnt work at all trying to escalate with her. Maybe its 'cope' or whatever but it seems 'justified' to me (keep in mind though I am about 23 days in on a nofap spree which is a bit maddening).

    Ive done a lot of celibacy nofaps, and each time a month or two in and it eventually gets to a point where it is like 'holy shit the willpower for this is insane whats wrong with once in a while?'

    Again could be rationalization. But as an artform I legitmately enjoy hentai for the different styles. One thing that is very hard to get away from though is the 'perfection' of how the girls look. That is what is so hard for me. Every girl is perfect looking, all incredibly lewd, flexible, horny etc.
     
  4. spoofy

    spoofy Active Member

    Hmm engrish, I meant props for acknowledging the problem.

    Ya man I hear ya, I'm in an LTR and on that high testosterone fitness point too, where I wanna bend every girl I see in the supermarket over ^^
    I also don't think porn per-se was bad (e.g back in old vhs days), but nowadays modern high-bandwidth porn is addiction inducing, pure crack .. which brought us both to this forum.

    Lmao @ artform, c'mon man you can't bullshit a bullshitter...
    I used to watch a lot of hentai, the sicker the better, but stopped like 10 years ago ... man that shit is pure fantasy, the dopamine level is insane, and as such is really bad for your brain ... but all good if you wanna turn to one of those weaboos :p
     
  5. Saber

    Saber New Member

    You used to watch hentai? I actually read hentai mangas, as I find the videos usually pretty cringy. So are you still addicted to porn? Why did you find hentai worse?
     
  6. spoofy

    spoofy Active Member

    Both dude, I think I read every hentai manga that existed back in the day, incest was my fav too, also was big into western comics though the bondage levels were really high.
    And yes there is a really high artistic value, but that's not why we really read/watch it :p

    I've found fictional fantasies worse because they don't exist in real life at all, not just sex but also how females personalities are portrait.
    That gave me unrealistic expectations from my women & partners, it also started to really turn me into an introvert weaboo when i finally had enough & stopped.
    On the contrary they're also more appealing because they're the perfect escape from our own reality.

    If someone watch it every once in a while and gets no issues in real life then good for them.
    Personally I don't think that is possible anymore, as you can get anything you want at a click of a button, which ultimately encourages addiction & novelty pursuit.
    Anyway those are just my personal experiences, your mileage may vary, all the best bro
     
  7. Saber

    Saber New Member

    So how long did you stay away? How did you eventually break it? Yeah the incest is pretty addicting to me too, not sure why. Subconsciously what does that even say? I agree with your point about the appearance and esp the personaility is what is crazy. They are always completely submissive yet oddly aggresive sexually, huge boobs, perfect figures etc.

    I think it messes with my real life partner in that I dont appreciate her as much.
     
  8. Saber

    Saber New Member

    Also to be clear I am not saying 'hentai is art' therefore its ok. I am saying hentai is artistic in that the women are far more attractive than 'real pron' women
     
  9. spoofy

    spoofy Active Member

    I think it's been like 10 years since I binged on manga/videos, I watched handful of vid snipets here and there because my partner likes hentai, but honestly it doesn't grip me anymore as it used to.

    Oh ye I see what you mean, of course you find it hot .. but people don't come here cause they hate porn, like other addictions they do because they like it "too much" ;)

    Sorry man I'm not sure about the "how" I broke it, it's been so long :( and ever since I stopped it just doesn't interest me at all, esp the "incest" part.
    I guess the reason is, because the plot / female portrayal is not realistic at all, I cannot suspend my disbelief enough to get turned on by it.
    In my head I already see how the pieces would unfold in real life, and it is always a real turn off.
    Nowadays I'm the guy who even when (rarely) watching amatuer porn, have to check "was it real, did it really happen? nah that doctor is fake, meh not fap worthy".
    Probably of no help, but sorry it's all I got mate.
     
  10. Saber

    Saber New Member

    Damn I thought I responded, but perhaps it got lost.

    Anyway so do you still look at porn? In your estimation is hentai 'worse' than regular porn? I ask not as a justification but like a kick in the ass more so. I always felt like it was less bad as it took imagination, but it def gave me low levels of PIED with sme girls, who were not 'hot' by hentai comparisons.

    Im near a 30 day no porn/fap so the justifications come fast and heavy, but being unbiased as much as I would 'want' to look at hentai and have it be harmless, I dont think it is. I find crazy hot cat girls, busty maids, explosively orgasmic girls, huge tits/small waists everywhere and how is my real life gf supposed to compare? I read a little about your dopamine and I largely agree, I think porn and modern society blows out your dopamine receptors hard.

    I remember the first time I looked at a hentai, it was a curiosity driven by a tvtrope (damn you tvtropes...) about 'o-ring orifice' (since removed) and it was about a girl inserting progressively larger things into her. Of course it got to things far unrealistic, but it was just so insanely forbidden and erotic that I literally came without touching myself (it was the first time that ever happened). The rest was history.

    I think back to something that can literally make you cum without even touching yourself and how can that not fuck your mind?
     
  11. spoofy

    spoofy Active Member

    I look at porn very rarely, because it's all addiction inducing nowadays.
    The good ol' "just gonna look at one vid and get my rocks off" doesn't exist anymore.
    I'd say hentai (esp incest/bondage), is comparable to high novelty fantasy porn. (like trannies, midgets, femdom, etc).

    Btw that orifice story is insane, wow man. never happened to me but it does remind me of something you may or may not relate to.
    I saw a similar (real) vid of a girl sticking progressively larger stuff up her ***, who looked much like my partner ... it kept resonating in my head "why can't my partner do that?" and for a long time I felt this sharp inner pain that I'm missing out, whereas tbh it's a really anatomically unrealistic expectation that just made me feel like shit in the end.
     
  12. Saber

    Saber New Member

    Yeah, its probably the same. I have a weird background in that I didnt PMO until mid 20s, no bullshit. First experiance was that hentai. I had a slutty gf around the same time, but we broke up and I was left with the hentai. I think because I played so much games/anime i was primed to 'accept' it.

    I'd get off on 'real' porn but the girls were always gross to me, gaped out vaginas, empty eyes and so on, yet in hentai every girl was a pure virgin. Of course youd have the dominating milfs etc. I think about how my tastes changed and its crazy as well. I even got into futa for a while,

    I agree with the part about partner not stacking up, after fox girls or slime girls my 'human' real life gf can be very hard to deal with, no huge breasts, no insatiable sex drive, no explosive orgasms from filling every hole etc.

    I am trying to explore the fetish aspect of why I settled on the incest and the large insertion/gaping/giantess fetish despite the others id be in. Probably some unconscious desire to be loved despite my flaws or something.
     
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  13. Saber

    Saber New Member

    Bumping this
     
  14. spoofy

    spoofy Active Member

    I gotta say though, dude you're right it's bullshit.
    I'm watching a mainstream quality anime with rich story/action, but yet bloody girl there has a DD+.

    It gives unrealistic expectations to people, I never gave it much attention but it's really starting to annoy me.
     

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