Do videogames make thing worse?

Discussion in 'Gaming Addiction' started by zombieguy, Dec 27, 2013.

  1. zombieguy

    zombieguy New Member

    Since playing more and more I've become addicted. It worked in stopping me drink alcohol for 10 weeks.

    Now this is weird, but on the back left hand side of my head, the scalp, it feels numb. I feel just as spaced out as I was when I watched porn. Not just that, it hasn't stopped me peeking occasionally at softcore stuff.

    Not sure, you think I should ditch the videogames?
     
  2. Screeching Eagle

    Screeching Eagle New Member

    I've been asking myself this question for over a year now.

    I want to give up porn
    I don't want to give up video games

    However, in my experience, video games and porn go hand and hand. Porn is just an alt tab away and I often find myself peeking during video game down times. I also find myself peaking at porn when I get frustrated in a game (losing streak of starcraft for example).

    I have tried to use video games as a way to handle the discomfort of rebooting. I fail every time.

    The answer on whether or not you should ditch video games comes from yourself. Is it killing your motivation to do anything else? Is it affecting your social life and personal life negatively? Are you skipping meals to play video games? And more... Ask yourself those types of questions.

    As for myself. I find video games to be much like porn. They are fun, have a social aspect to it (online gaming) and video games nowadays give constant rewards for repeating the same actions. (Pressing buttons on your keyboard/controller). When I'm playing video games, I find entire days melt away in what seems like minutes at times. I find myself skipping meals to finish a game and neglecting other areas of my life.

    Video games may be a trigger for your porn use, they are for me. Video games are not inherently bad, if you play 1-2 hours/day thats ok but if you are doing marathan sessions, you might need to cut em out.
     
  3. The Dude

    The Dude New Member

    I play video games about 3-4 times a week for at most a couple of hours a session. I think that's fine. As long as you don't go overboard then you should be okay - Try to balance your hobbies, mix in some reading, watching TV/films and something social like playing poker with friends.

    @Screeching Eagle - I only play consoles so that might be why I've never linked porn and video games in my head. But definitely if video games are a trigger they should be avoided.
     
  4. CidGuerreiro

    CidGuerreiro Active Member

    It's ok to play video games in the same way that it's ok to do any other everyday activity: in moderation.

    If you're just switching one addiction for another then yeah, you have a problem in your hands. In that case you should either give up completely on video games or be extremely strict on the amount of hours a day you play. Like two hours a day tops, and I'm being generous here.

    If you feel unable to respect that limit then you should give up on video games. What's the point on recovering from porn if you're going to develop another addiction that works in a very similar way, chaining you to your computer and turning you into a slave of a fantasy world?
     
  5. Striveforpurity

    Striveforpurity All praise and glory to our Lord Jesus Christ.

    Not everything is ok in moderation for example:

    Drinking cyanide is not ok in moderation.

    Masturbating is not ok in moderation.

    Watching porn is not ok in moderation.

    Rapeing someone is not ok in moderation.

    However I do agree that video games ARE ok in moderation.
     
  6. CidGuerreiro

    CidGuerreiro Active Member

    That's why I said "everyday activities"...
     
  7. lookingahead

    lookingahead To restore my inmost being. Staff Member

    You need to take a break from all forms of digital stimulation. I would argue that video games delays progress because it keeps your brain responsive to a digital screen. You need to stay away from anything that you would associate with your addiction. For example, when recovering alcoholics see other people drink, and they hear the bottles rattle and smell the beer or any other cue that reminds them of their addiction, their addicted pathways will fire up, even if they are not indulging in alcohol itself. In the same way, deriving super stimulation from video games, even in a non sexual way, will still trigger the same addicted pathways that fire up in the brain. Video games and porn overlap in the brain of a porn addict because they are both pixels - pixels which derive stimulation.
     
  8. Nerf Herder

    Nerf Herder Member

    I agree that video games should be avoided. Playing video games releases large amounts of dopamine in a similar setting to viewing porn. (It's no coincidence that many heavy porn users also play video games). Video games provide a cheap, short-term thrill, much like porn.

    Substituting other activities, such a reading, playing musical instruments, or exercise creates new pathways faster than just sitting inside and playing video games.
     
  9. neale

    neale New Member

    it's like everything nowadays, it's gone too far, same with porn, everything is now more and more extreme, same with videogames.

    when i think videogames i think of old ZX spectrum or amiga games, this was a far more innocent time. however i don't deny any type of videogame by it's very nature is addictive.

    at least the old style games were charming in a way and life was indeed simpler back then.

    you could argue the same with porn, i mean a lady in stockings and suspenders, or a half naked woman, or topless girls on the beach compared with the hardcore and bizarre porn we can now get "on tap" are two totally different worlds.

    in short i'd say yes, either give up altogether or CUT down on your gaming time, even set yourself a time limit, come off gradually perhaps, little by little.

    it's not easy i know that
     
  10. zombieguy

    zombieguy New Member

    So if you're playing videogames between 12-14 hours a day, going to bed at 6am in the morning, not eating properly and have no interest in doing anything else.

    That's exactly what I've been doing for the past couple of months.

    I do this to try and forget about porn but don't think it's working.
     
  11. neale

    neale New Member


    do you really do that??
     
  12. zombieguy

    zombieguy New Member

    Yeah, I just got hooked.

    I guess I'll try and lower it a bit in the new year.
     
  13. CidGuerreiro

    CidGuerreiro Active Member

    Of course it's not working. An alcoholic has a much harder time quitting booze if he's a smoker who won't quit cigarettes. In other words, one addiction feeds the others.

    You clearly lost control of your video-game habit. From now on you should be extremely strict on the amount of hours you play a day.

    Also avoid MMOs because these games are deliberately made to be extremely addictive.
     
  14. Screeching Eagle

    Screeching Eagle New Member

    Know how that feels, been doing that for about a year now. I always justify my insane video game overuse as a way to help me quit porn, yet I still fail frequently lol.

    Like me, video games are probably your main problem. Porn is a side activity to my video game use.

    When I think about it, I find myself wanting to quit porn but I can't even think about quitting video games. It seems like not an option to my addict brain. But video game use leads to porn relapse, etc...
     
  15. The Dude

    The Dude New Member

    That's definitely way too much video gaming. I think you need to quit the video games - there is no point replacing one addiction with another.
     
  16. zombieguy

    zombieguy New Member

    Videogames have only got out of hand the last few months. Before that I rarely played and I thought they would help beat watching porn but they've made it worse.

    Gotta quit. Thanks for all the replies everyone.
     
  17. superduper

    superduper break the chains of porn

    In my experience the only games that are bad for you are ones with addictive elements, ie: online games with leveling up

    Sitting down and playing Mario for an hour? Not going to do any damage.
     
  18. Screeching Eagle

    Screeching Eagle New Member

    Yea, you will get bored.

    I try to play games that have an end to them. I've gotten in trouble in the past chasing that digital carrot on a stick for months and months.

    Problem is, all these damn steam sales with stupidly cheap games. So I end up buying them all and trying to finish them as fast as I can. I feel irritated having a game that I haven't finished yet.
     

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