Could this be the answer to my problem?

Discussion in 'Ages 40+' started by ananoman, Dec 5, 2012.

  1. ananoman

    ananoman Member

    checking back in with my head hung low. I started sliding down the slippery slope... it had been sneaking peaks at P substitutes, but then that became sneaking peaks at soft P, and the frequency began to escalate. I'm back in a funk and know I need to get with the program again. I have managed to preserve my no PMO streak but the edging needs to stop.
     
  2. It is a slippery slope, and it takes an incredible amount of resilience to not give in.

    Know that these little peeks erode our confidence that we've built up, and it becomes easier and easier to look, and even to fall into old habits.

    Truly we need that 'porn is not an option' mentality, that says to ourselves that we're okay if we never see porn (or porn substitutes) ever again. Don't forget why you've started this journey to begin with.

    I'm with you, man, and standing with you on your journey.
     
  3. ananoman

    ananoman Member

    Its amazing how quickly I am able to come out of the fog. last night my brain started clearing up and immediately those slippery slope thoughts entered. I was able to fight them off and just go to bed. I think sugar intake also plays a part in the brain fog. I ate way too many desserts for Thanksgiving and kept eating them for a few days after (hey I didn't want the good food to go to waste!) and I'm pretty sure that also contributed to my funk. I stopped the sweets a few days ago when I also stopped the edging to try and get myself out of this funk.
     
  4. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    One day at a time, man. You got this.
     
  5. ananoman

    ananoman Member

    Been feeling listless since yesterday evening as my body is craving dopamine. It has put me in a really lousy mood. I broke down at lunch and treated myself to a slice of leftover pie.
     
  6. ananoman

    ananoman Member

    Still trying to climb out of this hole. A few things to note...

    For some time now I have been trying to keep my frequency of orgasm down to around once a week. This means that I will often have sex without O.

    2 weeks ago I started to have discomfort in my area down there, Kind of like a low grade "blue balls". When I orgasmed last weekend it was uncomfortable in I think the prostate area. When I had sex with the wife and orgasmed again 2 days ago, again it was uncomfortable in the prostate area. Last night when I had sex with the wife I decided to change things up to see what would happen and I orgasmed again. This time it did not hurt or feel uncomfortable.

    I did some quick research on the internet and it appears that infrequent ejaculation can contribute to inflammation of the prostate. I think I am going to abandon the sex without O approach and see how I do.

    Also my wife thinks that part of my tiredness problem is that I am naturally a night owl who wants to go to bed late and wake up late. But I have forced myself to conform to an early to bed and early to rise schedule all theses years. Not sure if there is any truth in this but it is an interesting theory.
     
  7. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    I have seen better results by orgasming more. But at this point once about every 10 days seems safe, I think that number will go down for me over time.
     
  8. ananoman

    ananoman Member

    Back to post after a long absence from here. This has been a rough Winter/Spring health-wise. I rarely get sick, but this year I got hit with a flu that took weeks to recover from and then after just 2 weeks of wellness caught a cold. Getting sick really pushed me to the limit on the discipline end and I started backsliding something fierce- looking at porn and porn substitutes. I guess I was really looking for that dopamine. my last falter 3 days ago left me with a terrible brain fog and lethargy. I decided I need to get back here and get serious about this once again.
     
  9. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    Welcome back, I understand how that happens. Getting back on track and putting in the past is all you can do.
     
  10. ananoman

    ananoman Member

    Urges are strong today. Trying to keep my mind occupied. Drank some caffeinated coffee this morning and its amazing what it did to my brain in terms of alertness
     
  11. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    Caffeine (or more accurately coffee) is great for the fog but I find it has lead to relapse in my case. I switched to green tea and I take the amino acid tyrosine and an herb (mucuna) to produce dopamine -- it's working very well for me. At night I take tryptophan to calm the system.
     
  12. ananoman

    ananoman Member

    This morning my brain fog lifted!! Not sure what contributed, part of it might be that my wife changed out the Bluair filters in our room and ran it on full blast yesterday, part of it is probably that after 5 days since my last slip I'm recovering. I'm just happy to finally be feeling great!!
     
  13. ananoman

    ananoman Member

    So I made it a week and then slipped again yesterday. This morning had sex with O with the wife and spent the entire day exhausted. I'm convinced there is a correlation.
     
  14. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    The farther I get from any P and edging the less draining and O from sex becomes. Yes, there is a correlation.
    Keep strong, ananoman.
     
  15. ananoman

    ananoman Member

    still struggling, but trying to fight the fight
     
  16. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    We're right here with you, one day at a time. Fight.
     
  17. ananoman

    ananoman Member

    I've been AWOL for several months but with the New Year has come a new resolve to fight the fight. Since June I have continued to go through the cycle of staying away from P only to fail after a short period of time- anywhere from a few days to a few weeks. My perpetual tiredness seems to have set in as my sleep quality deteriorates with age. I now am getting up at night more frequently to urinate and have been told it is BPH (benign prostatic hyperplasia). I tried several meds and have settled into a low dose of Cialis every other day which seems to be helping a bit. Of course Cialis is used for ED, so coupled with my Testosterone replacement therapy, every time I wake up I am sporting an erection.

    I have continued to notice that I really have to gauge the frequency of sex I have with my wife. Too many orgasms too close together will drain me of energy that takes days to recover.

    I am trying to make a clean start of things and really buckle down on the no P or P subs. Here's to a new start in 2017!!
     
  18. bobjes

    bobjes Active Member

    Happy NY Ananoman,

    Welcome back.
    Thanks for the info on BPH as I seem to have the symptoms of that. I did a quick research and had to laugh at the suggestion of frequent ejaculation as a possible preventative measure now that I am rebooting.

    Take it easy
     
  19. ananoman

    ananoman Member

    Maybe its a coincidence, but yesterday I began a concerted effort to put any straying thoughts out of my mind and not allow myself to linger on any thoughts, or images that might pop into my mind- and last night, I slept longer and deeper than I've slept in many months.
     
  20. ananoman

    ananoman Member

    OK- 2 nights in a row of good sleep. I find that I am tiring quickly during the day though
     

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