Can my depression be linked to PMO addiction?

Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by coyote, Mar 6, 2017.

  1. NovoElevation

    NovoElevation Member

    Coyote, i think you shouldn't be afraid to do what we men are supposed to do, since the beginning of time, which is to chase skirts. That's how it is.

    I really notice, these times are quite different than, say, 15 or 20 years ago. We are living a different kind of depression, dry and numb. Not the typical sad and suicidal.
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  2. YellowMinion

    YellowMinion Member

    I wanted to point out that there is a biological component to this. When you orgasm, dopamine levels plummet and prolactin levels rise. Prolactin is supposed to put the breaks on your sex drive which is why guys immediately lose all interest in sex after orgasm. Dopamine and prolactin levels don't really return to normal for up to two weeks and for a normal sex drive you should "want it" once every 7-14 days. Obviously PMO messes with this and when you're totally addicted it's not in a healthy balance.
    Prolactin levels can contribute to depression so PMO could actually be holding you in a depression state.

    I'm not pretending to know what I'm talking about here. I'm not a professional and I only know what I read. Just search Google on "orgasm prolactin dopamine" and maybe even add depression to the search and you might find somethings.

    Anecdotally, from my own experience... When I relapse and PMO, notice depression 2-4 days later unless I do it again or have sex. Occasionally for medical reasons my wife and I don't have sex for two weeks, I might cheat and PMO, and then I notice I'm in the hole. That feeling is specifically my motivation to no PMO above all things, though there are a variety of other unwanted consequences I want to avoid as well. But like a good hangover after a night of drinking, sometimes I forget and have fun then pay for it afterward.

    I don't know what the answer is nor would I put all of the blame on this one thing. I just wanted to point out one component that could be feeding the depression.
  3. NovoElevation

    NovoElevation Member

    Absolutely, plus PMO makes you guilty, when having real sex, does not.
  4. coyote

    coyote Active Member

    It's a vicious circle, unfortunately. I started PMOing years before I realized it's an addiction and I do have a problem with this.
    From 2009 to 2012 Dec it was completely normal for me to do PMO. I was like other guys have gfs and real sex, I have porn and that's COMPLETELY FINE. I never, for one second, questioned myself if this is right way to live.

    Now, many-many years later I know I've chosen the wrong path. Now I'm desperately trying to escape this situation, but cannot.
    Also, I have no idea how much is my PMO addiction feeding my depression. Maybe if I quit completely from now, I would feel a lot better in a few months, maybe the same, maybe even worse. I have no idea.
    I think the problem is not completely the addiction itself, but the THOUGHT of being addicted. It creates an insane amount of sorrow in my mind.

    In the past, I was addicted, too, but I never realized it and never had a problem with it. Guess "ignorance is bliss" applies here, too.

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